The Ultimate Newborn Sleep Schedule: Week By Week

You’ve come to the right place for your newborn sleep schedule and sleep patterns. I will help teach you how to get your baby on a schedule, how much time in bed is actually needed, and day and nighttime solutions.

When I was pregnant with my firstborn… I hadn’t babysat a child more than once or twice.

Much less a baby.

Much less a newborn that was as small as my forearm and was always hungry.

I read what I could, studied what I found, and now – as a mom of 5 – can safely say… getting your newborn to sleep well is totally possible.

I’ll show you how.

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The Ultimate Newborn Sleep Schedule: Week By Week

There is some discussion as to whether a baby is a newborn for 28 days or up to 3 months.

For the purposes of my newborn sleep schedule and routine, I’m going to consider 6 weeks the newborn phase as it’s when you’ll do your most intensive cocooning.

Week 1 of your newborn sleep routine

In truth, during the first week there is one goal with regards to newborn sleep… encourage your newborn to take full feeds.

At one week old, of course, the baby doesn’t need to be put on a type of routine yet, but the best thing you can do for a one week old baby routine is to make sure they are taking full feeds.

Right now, at one week, they are learning how to feed, sleep, and be alive! By helping them take full feeds you will know they are full and satisfied.

If they cry, whimper, or have discomfort an hour after a feed, you’ll know they aren’t fussing because they are hungry.

How to keep babies awake long enough to feed:

• Rub their feet and hands
• Wipe their forehead, neck, and face with a wet wipe
• Strip baby down to their diaper and un-swaddle or wrap them so they are not too warm and snug (Psst… here are beautiful nap and bedtime routine cards for your nursery)
• Burp thoroughly when you change nursing sides, or halfway through with the bottle
• Before a feeding, put your newborn on the ground for a little tummy time while you prepare to feed them, they’ll kick around and wake themselves up a bit

When you begin nursing, encourage your baby to take a full feed. This will vary depending on the baby, but it will not be 5 minutes, then falling asleep.

If your baby falls asleep after only a few minutes, gently rouse them and encourage them to continue feeding.

If you can get your baby to take full feeds for the first week they’ll naturally rest well, both day and night.

I know it can be super hard for you to get through this (emotionally and mentally), but you will get through it. You’ll likely do some contact napping during this period as well, which is precious and sweet in this early phase.

Sample One Week Schedule:

• 7:00 am – full feed, burp, diaper change, wake up and play time
• 8:10 am – wind down routine, down for nap
• 9:30 am – baby wakes up, full feed, diaper change
• 10:45 am – wind down, down for nap
• 12:00 pm – baby wakes up, full feed, “play time”
• 1:30 pm – wind down, down for nap
• 3:00 pm – baby wakes up, full feed, “play time”, bath time, family time, etc.

• 4:15 pm – wind down, down for nap
• 5:30 pm – baby wakes up, full feed, sits with family for dinner in infant seat or mom’s lap, family time
• 7:30 pm – cluster feed (tips on that here), wind down, down for nap
• 9:30 pm to 10:30 pm – dream feed (how to do that and when) (swaddled, of course), immediately back down to bed
• Night feeds throughout the night as baby wakes up

Newborn sleep schedule week 2

By now you are probably well and truly exhausted. And, if your baby has their days and nights all turned around, even more so.

Maybe you’ve even fallen prey to the biggest baby sleep myth I can think of. That of – keeping baby awake so they are tired and will sleep more. This is not the case.

While newborns do have a strong homeostatic drive (a drive to go to sleep), they will have a hard time falling asleep and staying asleep if they are overtired.

They’ll get into the dreaded overtired cycle which is when they’re too tired to eat well and too hungry to sleep well.

With your 2 week old baby, if you keep working on giving baby full consistent feeds (probably every 2 to 3 hours), you can also begin working on their day/night confusion.

Sounds scary?

It doesn’t have to be!

How to clear up day and night confusion:

• During the day when baby is awake and feeding, open windows, turn on lights, and keep things very bright
• At night, 8:00 pm and later, do all feeding, hugging, cuddling, diaper changing, in very dim or dark conditions
• After feeding your baby during the day, attempt to keep them awake for at least a few minutes by singing, cooing, playing, and bonding

• If your baby seems fully awake in the middle of the night, try turning on very bright lights which will cause baby to shut their eyes (I’ve heard good things about this trick)
• Don’t allow more time than 3 hours between feedings during the day, even if they are still sleeping. Wake them up and feed them again if they continue sleeping. You don’t want a 5 hour stretch to happen during the day, you want it to happen at night
• At night, feed them whenever they wake up and are hungry, but let them determine how frequent that is
• At night, avoid stimulating, playing, cooing, singing, or any other behaviors that will encourage baby to stay awake
• Work on your swaddling with these helpful tips.

At this point, your baby is getting the hang of the outside world and you are getting the hang of this period.

Pro Tip

Continue feeding your baby full feeds as you look forward to the next week or two when a more routine day can be expected for both you and baby.

Sample 2 week sleep schedule

• 6:30am feed then sleep
• 9:00am feed then sleep
• 11:30am feed then sleep
• 2:30pm feed then sleep
• 5:30pm feed then quick sleep
• 7:30pm feed then bed (these are cluster feeds)
• 10:30pm dream feed
• feed overnight as needed

Newborn schedule week 3

Now that your baby is about 3 weeks old and is getting the hang of full feeds and has their days and nights mostly fixed, it’s time to start thinking about teaching your baby to fall asleep on their own.

Here’s why… because they are probably already doing it at this point and their drive to sleep is still strong.

2 and 3-week-old babies often go to sleep on their own without much fuss, and if you want that to continue then now is the time to start good habits. Some babies won’t fall asleep in the bassinet, but you can help achieve this without much fuss.

As babies get bigger they’ll stop this and that’s when you get in a pickle. Moms find themselves victim of the nap trap with no end in sight.

Having to jump through hoops and use newfangled vibrating equipment, washing machines, and cars to get baby to sleep.

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How to get your newborn to go to sleep on their own:

• Do not let your little one get overtired (more on that here)
• Learn the fine art of putting your baby to sleep awake but drowsy. This means before your baby has fully conked out, but while they are yawning, doing the “eye roll” or rubbing their eyes, you can set them in their crib to do the final hard work of falling asleep on their own
• Give the baby a pacifier. This is one of the best ways to help your baby learn to calm down on their own. The pacifier also becomes a positive sleep association (here’s what sleep associations are and do) and gives your baby a way to soothe themselves into sleep. This is my preferred pacifier because it rarely falls off and by 3 months babies can hold it themselves.

• Perfect your naptime or bedtime routine (effective quieting routines can be found here) as another positive sleep association. Songs, rocking, hugging, and patting are great ways to help baby calm down. Diaper change, lights down low (even in daytime), and white noise communicate “sleepy time.”
• When baby is well fed, changed, and not overtired, simply put the baby in their own crib while they are drowsy and let them learn to fall asleep on their own. They will likely stare off into space for a time, if not fall right to sleep. This is okay. This is right!
• In the meantime, you can even help them to sleep in and take longer naps.

Next, we’ll talk about finding and crafting a good routine for a baby that meets all their needs in a timely way that encourages full bellies and rested babies.

Sample 3 week schedule

• 7:30am feed then nap
• 10:30am feed then nap
• 12:30pm feed then nap
• 3:00pm feed then nap
• 5:30pm feed then short nap
• 7:30pm cluster feed then bed
• 10:00pm dream feed
• feed at night as needed

WEEK 4 of the newborn sleep schedule

Now that both you and baby are good and used to one another, it’s time to find a mutually beneficial routine and get your newborn on a schedule.

A routine that serves the needs of your infant for nourishment, sleep, and lots of mommy bonding.

As well as a routine that allows mom to take care of herself, meet the needs of other children, and maintain a working and functioning home without compartmentalizing your life.

How to find a good rhythm, routine, or schedule:

• Determine the average time between feeds. If your baby usually goes between 2.5 to 3 hours between feeds, create a routine based on those times.
• Start your day at a consistent time. Choose a time each morning (say, 7 a.m.) and feed the baby every single day at that time. Soon your baby will sleep until 7 and that’ll be your normal start to the day.
• Write down a feasible schedule that allows 2.5 to 3 hours between feedings with nap times in between each feed. See my sample newborn routine with all its times here.
• Make sure general feeding times don’t coincide with other major activities you can’t change like car pickup, dinner time, or the bedtime routine of older children. Of course, you’ll have to be flexible, but take these times into consideration and attempt to feed before or after those events.

• Cluster feed during the late afternoon early evening, more on that here.
• Get the baby sleep routine cards, the baby sleep checklists, AND all 25+ routines for babies aged 6 weeks to 5 years right here.
• Make sure to wake baby up to maintain your routine during the day. Don’t let baby sleep for 4 hours during the day because, inevitably, she’ll need to feed twice during that period at night to make up for it. At night, let the baby sleep as long as they are able between feeds. You determine day, they determine night.

If you still have questions about how to craft a routine, here are my routine archives full of practical tips age by age.

The joy of a routine…

Sample 4-Week-Old Baby Sleep Schedule

• 4:30 am – feed baby swaddled (no lights on), put immediately back down to sleep
• 7:00 am – wake up, feed unswaddled (here’s why) in well lit area, play time
• 8:15 am – wind down routine, down for nap awake but drowsy (first nap of the day is the most important!)
• 10:00 am – wake up, full feed unswaddled, play/bathe/errands/ tummy time
• 12:45 pm – wind down routine, down for nap
• 2:45 to 3:00 pm – wake up, full feed, play/family time
• 4:15 pm – down for nap
• 5:30 pm – cluster feed, bath/family time / sit with family at dinner
• 6:30 pm – cat nap
• 7:00 pm – get baby up, wind down routine
• 7:30 pm – cluster feed (what that is, here) swaddled then immediately down for nap
• 9:30 pm to 10:00 pm – feed again swaddled, put immediately down to sleep
• Feed at night as baby wakes up

Week 5: Newborn Sleep Schedule

The dream feed is one of the most important feeds of the day. Or night, rather.

Why?

Because it’s what will help baby get a longer stretch of sleep through the middle of the night and it’s what’ll help you do the same!

A dream feed is essentially a feeding you give the baby between 10:00 pm and 11:00 pm or so, right before you go to sleep.

It helps “top the baby off” so to speak and will hopefully allow you both an extra hour or two of uninterrupted sleep.

This feed is important because it works to fill the baby’s tummy during early evening hours so they learn to sleep long stretches.

It is also the last feed you’ll likely drop.

When you have only one nighttime feed left (and your baby is sleeping until your desired morning time) this will be that feed.

Dream feed Basics:

• Baby will not likely wake for this feed since they’ll have had a couple of feeds just a few hours earlier in the night. This means you will wake the baby, likely right before you go to sleep, and feed her.
• Babies can be historically sleepy at this feed and not drink very much. When you wake baby, do a diaper change, re-swaddle, and try to feed the baby as much as they’ll take. If they nod off after a few minutes, use a wet wipe to wake them up and get them drinking again.
• If your baby won’t wake up, wait 20 minutes and try again.

• Feed in a dim or dark room so baby does not associate this feed with stimulation, but simply feeds half asleep then goes back down in their crib fast asleep. These are part of a basic calming quieting wind down routine.
• This feed will be maintained until baby is sleeping fully through the night until morning. And I don’t mean 5:00 am. I mean 6:00 am or later. You’ll drop early morning feeds and be left with the dreamfeed. When you feel confident your baby can sleep through the entire night without  milk, then you drop this feed.

This feed may be tricky to get the hang of since baby is so drowsy, but it’s worth its weight in milk.

Erm, gold!

• White noise machine
• Swaddle that allows diaper changes without unswaddling
• Pacifier to help baby settle between feeds and at rest times

Sample 5-week schedule

• 7am feed then nap
• 10am feed then nap
• 1pm feed then nap
• 4pm feed then nap
• 6pm split feed
• 7pm split feed then bed
• 10pm dream feed
• feed as needed throughout night

WEEK 6 of Newborn Sleep Schedule

Morning wake times.

This is one of the most important habits you can start with your 6 week old baby. Why decide a morning wake time?

Well… it’s simple.

If you feed them at a consistent time each morning, that’s the time they learn to sleep until.

So, if you feed your baby at 5:30 am and then start the day… their metabolisms and body clocks will get used to waking up for good at 5:30 am.

You probably want to avoid this.

How to choose a morning wake time for your baby:

• Choose a time that is suitable to your family routine and consistently feed them at this time.
• Every morning, aim to feed your baby at this time even if they’ve fed as soon a 1.5 hours before.
• If need be, gently rouse your baby up around 4 or 4:30 am and feed them as full a feeding as they will take, then wake them up again at the time you’ve determined is their “morning wake time.”

• And, if they wake earlier than this time but are not crying for milk, cuddle, hold, play with, and rock baby until that time comes. If the baby is extremely hungry, feed baby of course. Try to get a full feed in there and then get back on routine throughout the day.
• Remember consistency is key. Your baby’s body will get used to eating at a certain time and will slowly but surely start sleeping a lot closer to that time.

At this point your baby takes full feeds, has a good routine, is learning to put himself to sleep, and has established dream feeds and morning wake times.

You are nearly there! Soon you’ll have a peaceful newborn sleep schedule. You are a newborn sleep pro!

If you are going back to work at this point, you may want to teach your baby to sleep well at someone else’s house.

Sample 6-week schedule

• 6:30am feed and nap
• 9:30am feed and nap
• 12:30pm feed and nap
• 3:30pm feed and nap
• 5:30pm feed and short nap
• 7:30pm feed and bed
• 10:30pm dream feed
• feed as needed throughout night

Common problems moms with newborn go through

Let’s dive into some common challenges moms with newborns face. And, of course, their solutions. Sure, you need to be working on your newborn sleep schedule, but mama needs to schedule in some self-care for herself!

Sleep deprivation for postpartum moms

If you’ve got a newborn baby, you may not be sleeping much. There are night feedings, day feedings, day cuddles, and that hormone-induced sense of twilight zone.

The postpartum period is like a visitor you were so excited to have and then – when she got there – you kept wanting her to leave.

If you focus on creating good sleep routines now, this will pass. And honestly, it’ll pass pretty fast. But there are some good rules of thumb for postpartum mamas. Self-care is, honestly, super important.

• Nap when baby naps. Seriously.
• Go to bed early when you put baby down. All sleep before midnight counts as 2 hours. I mean, that’s the ole saying and it rings true! Our biological rhythms put us in deep deep sleep in the hours until midnight.
• Stop even pretending you’re going to do a lot of things you did before you brought your newborn home. Literally, cross them off the list. Bye. Done. Not happening. Oh well.
• Ask for help. If your husband doesn’t help out and is resentful of you being so “needy” (wish I didn’t have to add this here, unfortunately, I do) then ask some friends. Do Not Pretend You’re Okay If You’re Not.
• Get a side sleeper for your room if you want to sleep near baby. As a certified sleep consultant I can’t advise co-sleeping, but if you want to be able to roll over and feed and touch baby, a bedside sleeper will do. And it means you can room share with baby. And not have to traipse down the hall. And get baby used to sleeping in his own space too.

Postpartum moms with newborn babies can’t get anything done

You came here for a newborn sleep schedule and here we are. You want baby to sleep on a good routine or schedule, yes. Both for baby’s development and well-being. And also because some moms need some predictability in their lives.

All of life doesn’t happen on a schedule. And all of your newborn’s sleep won’t happen on a perfect schedule.

But dadgummit… some things still have to get done.

• Ruthlessly – I mean ruthlessly, channel the meanest person you know – excuse yourself from responsibilities and commitments. Just opt out. Give yourself a deadline. Fine, I’ll give you a deadline. By tonight… write texts or emails and tell people you’re no longer leading the bible study, heading the committee, organizing that event, etc.
• Call in help! Get a mother’s helper during the newborn and postpartum days. My mother’s helper got me through my postpartum period with my 5th baby. When I had 5 kids 5 and under. Yes, you read that right. and I didn’t die. Hire a homeschooled higher school girl or a flexible dependable college student. A few hours a week will mean you can pay some bills, do some admin, and get through the newborn phase in tact.
• Create daily and weekly routines. I am the routine expert, people. Believe me. Routines help remove thing from your to do list. While you’re working on your newborn sleep schedule, work on your own schedule. Mondays, bills. Tuesday, make phone calls. Wednesday, tidy and clean (minimally, enough to not be disgusted with the house). Thursday, order groceries. Friday, do some serious self-care. Weekends, do nothing.

Newborn babies cry… can you cope?

Truthfully… one of the hardest part about the newborn period is the crying. Now, some babies don’t cry much. And I want to offer many of you comfort. It will be cold comfort to others.

If you focus on full feeds in your newborn sleep schedule, and start with the good healthy sleep habits from the bat… your baby will likely be chill.

That said, some babies ain’t chill. They are Agitated Infants. Colic. Tummy issues. All around more high maintenance.

• If your baby cries a lot, get support. Take breaks. Absolutely 100% get some time away from the screaming. Your nervous system is not designed to withstand constant crying from a tiny helpless baby you love. You’re made to respond. But when you respond and it doesn’t stop the crying? Take breaks.
• Some baby’s newborn sleep schedule will mean there are less tears. The better rested and well fed a baby is the less likely there will be tears.
• Rule out tummy issues. My cousin had a baby recently, and being the loving certified sleep consultant and play cousin that I am, I decided to help. He had such exaggerated sleep issues that I knew… it was more than sleep. She essentially eliminated everything but salmon (fine, not quite that bad) and he calmed down immediately.
• Come up with a mantra. Sounds fooey but try it. Think about some kind of mantra or affirmation you can tell yourself when your baby is crying and won’t stop. Something like “Baby is not alone, I am here.” “This is not an emergency.” “Some babies cry a lot, it will pass.” These types of things.
• Rule out medical issues. There are some medical reasons babies don’t sleep. If you can’t calm down and can’t cope, make sure and rule out anything medical.

When you have a newborn… and other kids!

Sometimes, moms with older siblings are the most insistent on getting some kind of newborn sleep schedule going. Because – hello – the baby ain’t the only one in the house.

Everyone had needs before the newest member of the family showed up… and they still have them!

• Stagger naps when possible. Yes, do aim for everyone having the same afternoon nap. I mean…. that’s really needed. But at other times, get baby to bed and then spend time with your other ones.
• Don’t force the kids to love the new baby. Mine all loved the baby, maybe none remembered a time when they were aloe. But, depending on the age gap, some kids are mad at baby. An intruder on mom’s love! Someone usurped their position! Validate your little one’s feelings, don’t be like “you love baby!” when they are clearly not. They will simply escalate.
• Don’t let the older kids run wild. Permissive parenting is perceived by kids as lack of care. They will often push even harder. You have a new baby, this isn’t an offense against your other children. Don’t get permissive in guilt. It’ll only increase your overwhelm.

Reasons newborn babies cry

• They are hungry and need to feed (make sure you are offering full feeds, otherwise baby will snack and you’ll find it difficult to differentiate a hunger cry from another cry)
• They are tired and need to nap. Essentially newborns nap between each feeding. If baby has been up more than 1.5 hours then they are tired, and likely overtired.
• They are physically uncomfortable. Baby may have a wet diaper, dirty diaper or be too hot or cold. Generally, newborns need about one more layer than we do!
• They have reflux and it’s uncomfortable. You will see your pediatrician, of course, for this, then use the information here to keep baby as comfortable as possible until they outgrow this.
• They have colic and/or are letting off steam. Newborns don’t usually develop colic until around 6 weeks or so, but some crying is normal with newborns. It’s the only way they can communicate. Our job is not to stop their crying as quickly as humanly possible, but to learn to decipher their cries so we can meet their needs appropriately and promptly.
• They are whiny for one of these 8 reasons.
• They are restless, frustrated, or simply want a cuddle from their precious mama. Which you will be happy to provide!

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