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Baby Reflux: A Surprising Cause (And How To Help Baby Sleep)

Updated January 15, 2021

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Did you know there's something else that could be causing reflux type symptoms that ISN'T reflux? Reflux babies have trouble sleeping, but these tips help.

Did you know there’s something else that could be causing reflux type symptoms that ISN’T reflux? Reflux babies have trouble sleeping, but these tips help.


Babies with reflux have a hard time sleeping.

The End. 

Okay, it’s not that hopeless. But it is hard.

Baby is uncomfortable and baby doesn’t find it easy to go to sleep if they are uncomfortable. Reflux causes pain in baby’s tummy, throat, and mouth and then can be woken up from sleep easier.

Gas often accompanies reflux and it can seem like a negative cycle.

Baby is uncomfortable. ➡️ Baby won’t sleep. ➡️ Baby is tired so doesn’t feed well. ➡️ Baby is hungry, overtired, and not resting or feeding well. ➡️ Baby is uncomfortable.
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Our Story With Sleep And Baby Reflux…. Or Was It?

I’ll not soon forget the first round of baby vomiting. 

My second born son would feed, feed, feed, then he’d throw up, have gas, and have trouble sleeping. I knew it takes some time for baby to “figure out how to feed.” So, I let the symptoms slide for a few weeks before mentioning them to my midwife.

Maybe I was doing something wrong, I thought.

Turns out, I was and I wasn’t.

The doctor saw my son had reflux symptoms and prescribed some medicine for us. We lived near Sydney at the time and were planning a trip to the States, so I dutifully had it filled as part of our trip preparation.

I was a new mom and didn’t do enough research. Plus, I was frazzled traveling overseas with two babies 1 year and younger. I forgot to get the flight attendants to refrigerate the medicine.

By the time we landed, the medicine had turned a brownish color that signified it would no longer work. 

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I needed a new plan

My baby was around 2 months old and I’d had reflux medicine for about three days now it was gone. I was desperate to figure out the root cause of this, not just treat his symptoms. I started watching for what was happening while I was feeding.

It was going to be a few days until I could get him into a doctor here anyway.

Then, I noticed something interesting happening while I was feeding.

Baby seemed to be choking on the milk. 

In fact, the milk was coming out so fast that he barely had time to swallow before it went down his throat, into his tummy, and out into his diaper.

The midwife had actually told me that a lot of the milk was undigested in his diaper because it was in and out so fast.

Why?

Hyper-lactation. 

One possible cause (certainly not all, consult your doctor and follow their recommendations) of reflux like symptoms is hyper-lactation. I found this term after tons of Googling, #thankyouverymuchGoogle.

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Hyper-lactation essentially means mothers make more milk than strictly necessary for their baby. It often causes a very fast and aggressive letdown where milk comes out without much work on the baby’s part and it can often be painful for the mother.

There can be a lot of engorgement and a foremilk / hindmilk imbalance that results in fussiness, gas, and reflux like symptoms in infants.

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Once I was able to realize that hyper-lactation was the cause of the reflux like symptoms, I could do a few things during feeding that would help ease his symptoms.

And ultimately help his sleep.

Tips For Feeding If You Suspect You’re Experiencing Hyper-Lactation

  • When you are feeding and let down occurs, take the baby off for a bit and express (into a pump or nursing pad, etc.) and then put baby back on. This will “lessen the pressure.”
  • Change position while feeding. Lie down or lay back and have baby on your chest so baby has to “work harder” to get the milk and gravity isn’t helping the milk come out at a faster than necessary rate.
  • Nurse from one side at a time. If both sides have an aggressive letdown and you give baby both then they’re twice as likely to experience reflux symptoms. Instead, feed from one side fully for a long time. They’ll still get all the hindmilk rich in nutrients and have less foremilk.
  • Wait until 3 months or so to do something drastic. After this time, witching hours should also be a thing of the past which will help you tease out the issue.

I had hyper-lactation with 3 of my babies and by 3 months or so all had evened out.

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But wait… how do you help babies with reflux sleep?

So with at least 3 babies who had reflux like symptoms, I learned a few things. The best you can do is to make super baby is well fed, help minimize their pain or discomfort, and create the right conditions for sleep.

But you can’t make baby sleep. 

Truthfully, all my babies slept well because it was something I focused on.

When you focus on something you see results.

But it wasn’t without some struggle and – it goes without saying – comforting baby is always paramount.

Sometimes when baby is in pain it is the comfort of mom that will help him sleep. So I kept that in mind when I wanted them to sleep, but they wanted to be held or sat upright.

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Put The Crib At An Incline

Whether baby is sleeping in a crib or in a bassinet or wherever else, put the mattress at a safe incline that will help prevent some of the reflux from coming up.

Same reason why older folks will sleep sitting up in a recliner (or why you did it while pregnant!) because gravity keeps the stomach acids down.



As long as the incline is not too steep that baby will tend to slide down it, then this will help position baby on his back with a better chance of getting to sleep comfortably. We also have used towels or blankets under the mattress to achieve the same effect.

Burp, Burp, Burp If Baby Has Reflux

I don’t know about you, but burping ain’t as easy as you think it will be. It doesn’t always result in a burp.

When I was in the throes of hyper-lactation I always made sure to burp for as long as it reasonably took until I felt sure baby wouldn’t have gas.

I knew if I’d missed one because at the 45 minute mark baby would wake up from a nap crying in pain. I’d often go to the crib and lift the baby and – as I did so – the baby would burp. 

If baby goes to sleep and wakes after 45 minutes crying, there are usually two culprits.

  1. Baby has trouble transitioning through sleep cycles from passive to active (or vice versa) sleep. If baby has reflux it could be that while trying to transition they felt pain, gas or otherwise, and woke up.
  2. Baby has gas and wakes up crying. This type of cry is usually more one of pain or distress than the cry from #1 and you’ll know this was the case if you pick baby up and he or she burps quickly.

How to avoid this? More frequent burping throughout the feeding then really working to burp baby well before putting them down to rest.

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Hold Baby Upright Before Naps

Another thing you can do is after feeding, burping, changing diapers, and before you put baby down to rest…. hold baby upright.

This may be upright on your chest, in an infant seat, on your lap or however else, but the key is to have the baby upright so that the discomfort from reflux type symptoms are minimized. According to Healthline…

“A horizontal position makes it easier for the stomach contents to reflux into the esophagus. The undeveloped digestive system is the reason why all babies are prone to experience acid reflux symptoms. “

The longer you keep baby in the horizontal position the better to minimize reflux discomfort for your little one.

Ultimately, reflux is something that passes in most babies (though not all) around the time they begin sitting up for this very reason, so if you can hold baby upright pre-feeding then it will make a big difference.

baby in blue onesie crying

Get Medicine If Necessary

Of course, if your baby is exhibiting signs of reflux I hope you’ve already taken them to the doctor and then followed the recommendations you were given.

We are in an unprecedented time where the pendulum swung from enthusiasm for all medicines last century (vaccines! pills!) to a near current disdain for medicine.

Obviously we don’t want to over-medicate our kids when it isn’t necessary, but don’t be afraid to try what’s on the market if it’ll bring relief to your little one.

baby in green onesie sleeping in dad's arms

Comfort Baby And Know It Will Pass

By 1 year of age, most babies will grow out of reflux.

This is because up to this point the baby’s esophagus is not fully formed. At around one year of age the esophageal sphincter muscle is more fully developed and will stop allowing the stomach contents back up into the esophagus.

While some continue to have reflux or GERD symptoms into toddlerhood, most do not.

So what does this mean ?

It means the following…

  • Comfort a baby who is in pain. Even if you are creating sleep props you’ll have to break later, a baby who is in pain isn’t going to sleep without some help anyway.
  • Try and avoid overtiredness. It’s a myth that wearing baby out will make him sleep better. It’ll do the opposite.
  • Set the stage for sleep. Use positive sleep associations, baby bedtime routines, and wind down routines to help baby get into the mood to sleep. Most will. Not all the time, but much of the time.
  • Follow all The Things. Do all that the experts say to do to help relieve baby’s pain, including the gripe water and medication and watching your own diet for foods that contribute to reflux. Then… if baby won’t sleep… comfort baby.

As someone wise and a bit funny once said…

“This too shall pass… it may pass like a kidney stone, but it’ll pass.”

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Comments

  1. Nora says

    In the section ” hold baby upright before naps” shouldn’t the text after the quote in green say the longer you keep your baby in the vertical positions.

    Reply
    • Rachel Norman says

      Oops, thank you!

      Reply
  2. Mushft says

    Hi. My baby is 1 month old n there r signs of reflux. I keep him on chest for few mins but still he feel grunting

    Reply
    • Rachel Norman says

      Does he get good burps when you burp him?

      Reply
  3. Meredith says

    Thank you for your post! Is there any specific prop you can suggest that we can put in his crib? The o my thing that seems to work is propping him on the bopping but we have to watch him because it’s not safe to leave him unattended in it! Ugh. We tried the towel under the crib mattress which didn’t seem to work and he skied down the mattress, which makes me think the same would happen for a wedge under the mattress.

    Reply
    • Rachel Norman says

      Hey Meredith, so we did blankets under it and then we did towels under it and then we even did flat type of pillows under it. Also it TOTALLY isa balance between propping them up and them sliding down or sort of rolling down. Ha! Precious babies. I am not sure I’d buy a pricey wedge before trying something else first to make sure he could handle it. Have you tried a flat pillow?

      Reply
  4. Rachel says

    I absolutely second the experience you describe with a reflux baby and the accompanying tips. I wish I had understood better why burping is so important for reflux babies and how properly emptying each side when feeding ensures they get the good milk. We propped lightly with a towel under the mattress. We did try all the things!

    Reply
    • Rachel Norman says

      RAchel, yes it’s tricky as we are going through it! You WILL find a solution

      Reply
  5. Larissa says

    Hello Rachel, i have a 2.5months old (2weeks corrected) preemie and is experiencing reflux. We could never put her down on the crib, my husband and i are taking shifts to feed her and hold her upright like forever. And if we sleep she will only sleep deeply on her chest on top of us. If we put her on her back she become fussy and after few seconds will start throwing up. We tried a wedge bed already, also that didnt help. Please help, we need SLEEP 😭😭😭

    Reply
    • Rachel Norman says

      Larissa, sweet thing has a hard case of reflux! What does your doc suggest?

      Reply

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