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Wondering about the dream feed? Here is all you need to know about having a dreamfeed and when to stop. This post goes along well if you are thinking about sleep training.
Oh these little squishy babies…
I remember the first time I heard about a dream feed with my firstborn.
What is it?
Why do you do it?
Why all these names for things?
Why? Why? Why?
I read around and then tried to implement the dream feed with my baby girl. It took a while, but eventually we got the hang of it and Oh My Goodness… game changer.
If you don’t currently do a dream feed then this post will help you for a few reasons.
What Is A Dream feed?
A dreamfeed is a feeding you do in the late evening hours before you go to bed. You’ll usually have to rouse baby for this feed.
I’ll get into the details… keep reading.
Read: End Baby’s Witching Hour — In 4 Simple Steps
Why A Dream feed?
First, let’s tackle why we want to do a dream feed in the first place. Here are the two main reasons dream feeds are a good idea. Necessary? Of course not! Helpful? Absolutely!
- You get a longer stretch of sleep each night | By feeding baby in the later evening, before midnight, you’ll hopefully get yourself a longer stretch of sleep. Sleep is very important to moms for sanity (lack of sleep is literally like torture), healing, and to help you get back to your normal self in the postpartum fog.
- Baby will eventually do the dream feed then sleep until your desired wake time | It’s hard for a baby to sleep from 7 pm to 7 am. When baby is old enough, adding in a dreamfeed can get baby to sleep from the dream feed until your desired wake time.
Read: Baby Bedtime — 4 Essential Elements For Success
Dream feeds: The Why, The How, & When To Stop
So let’s dive into it. By the end of this post I hope you’ll have all you need to know about the dream feed and why its so useful.
Read: Simple Baby Advice That Stands The Test Of Time
When To Dream feed
Ideally, you want to dream feed right before you go to sleep, but usually no later than 11:30. Somewhat, the time you feed depends on what time you go to bed.
You want to feed baby right before you go down to sleep. So if you go to bed around 10:00 then feed baby at that time, then lie down to sleep.
If you feed baby while keeping him swaddled and not fully rousing him, then baby will sort of feed in his sleep and “top up” his tummy. Doing a dream feed between 10:00 and 11:30 is usually a safe bet, but any later than that becomes a night feed.
Read: The Ultimate Newborn Sleep Schedule: Week By Week
How To Dream feed When Baby Is Drowsy
Those first early hours after you’ve put baby to bed are often baby’s deepest sleep. This means it can be tricky to rouse baby enough to get them to feed.
That’s okay.
We don’t want to force it when it isn’t working. However, often you’ll be able to rouse baby enough to take a feed, even half a feed, and this can help them sleep longer at night.
For those first few weeks, there’s really no need for this feed.
It comes in most handy when baby is a bit older and you’re trying to make the stretches between night feedings longer. If baby is drowsy, here are some ways to rouse him enough to give him the feed.
- Unswaddle from the bottom to change his diaper.
- Rub a wet wipe or cloth across his cheek.
- Rub the bottom of his feet or cheek.
- Put some milk on his lips.
If these don’t work, then put baby gently back down. If you’re still up half an hour later then you can try again briefly. If it still doesn’t work, go to bed. In a few weeks time it might start to work and that’ll be a sign baby is likely ready to sleep longer stretches.
Read: Want an Easy Baby? Use The Foolproof Baby Schedule
Does It Always Work?
Now, I’m a big believer in the dream feed. I know – having had 5 babies – it’s the reason they routinely slept until at least 7 a.m., if not on closer to 8, even as tiny babies. They were given milk at the dream feed which enabled them to sleep later in the morning.
Then – when they were ready – I dropped the dream feed and they slept all night!
That said, sometimes they can be a bit tricky. If you wake your baby for a dream feed at 11:00 pm and baby wakes at 12:30 am for another feed, then baby might be resistant to that.
It might work out better for baby to simply go to bed at night, sleep a long stretch, and then wake up for that 12:30 am feed. This will mean baby sleeps a long restorative stretch.
You can, with time, add in that dream feed if you want them to sleep later.
Often babies will start sleeping through the night but waking up at 4:30 or 5:00 am and not want to go back down. This is why the dream feed is so helpful. It means they will feed at 10:30 pm or so and then sleep until 6:30 or 7:00 am instead.
Unless you need baby up that early to leave the house, it’s a more pleasant proposition for baby to sleep later.
Read: The Fastest Way To Get Through The 4 Month Sleep Regression (With Sanity Intact)
When To Wean… This is Important !!!
I want to reiterate here that if you only have one feeding per night, it’s very helpful if it’s a dream feed. It should – theoretically – be the last feed you drop.
Here’s the reasoning…
By having a dream feed you are helping baby sleep longer stretches between night feedings. They may need a 3:00 am feed and a 5:30 am feed then sleep on until 7 or so.
You’ll eventually drop that 3 am feed and focus on the 5:30 am one. After a while, you’ll work to drop that 5:30 am feed so they are sleeping later in the morning.
The way they make it until 7 or so in the morning?
The dream feed!
If you haven’t had a dream feed and baby is under 6 months but not yet sleeping through the night, try adding it in.
See if it helps baby sleep later. I always kept the dream feed even though I dropped all the others because that extra time in the morning meant a lot to me.
Read: A 7 Month Old Feeding Schedule That Works Like A Charm
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Amy says
Hi Rachel,
I’ve just stumbled across your blog whilst looking for help. My LO is 9 months old, we have been giving him a dreamfeed since he was 2-3months at 11pm. However he has always still woken up between 5-6am! When he was younger I thought this was ok and as he got older he would sleep longer after weaning but no luck. He is having 3 meals a day with the last one being between 4.30-4.45pm. Throughout the day he is having 4 bottles of formula of 5-6oz then the dreamfeed on top. I feel like he is having a lot but he still doesn’t want to sleep later in the mornings. I have a 3 year old daughter, and she is constantly being woken up early. Which in turn makes her very grumpy! If you have any advice I would be so grateful!
ASHLEY says
I have the same problem of baby waking up around 6 AM and being done for the night. He is 2 months old and we do a dream feed around 10 PM each night. He wakes for feedings around 2-3 AM and then again between 5-6 AM. We can rarely get him to sleep again after 6 AM. I feed him between 7:15-7:45 AM each day to try to get his metabolism to get used to that time for waking and being hungry, but still no sleep after 6 AM for us thus far.
Sobia says
Exact same issue with my 6 week old by. Doesn’t sleep after 6 am. Please help.
Linda says
My baby is 12 weeks old. I breastfeed him at 10:00 pm and he will religiously wake up every two hours to feed! Is he too young? Sometimes I try for him to take more milk but he will just spit it out
Kelly says
How do you work to get rid of feedings like the 3 and 5 times? Do babies just drop them naturally? I have an 8-week old that does a 6pm, 12am, 3 am, 5am, and then is up for 7am on through the day.
Rachel Norman says
Kelly, I found baby just naturally started to drop the feeds. I usually kept the 5 am and the dreamfeed and then dropped the 5 am first, then the dream feed
Amanda says
Rachel – my 5mo dream feeds around 10:30pm and still wakes around 4am. She’ll stay awake unless I feed her (eats for a few minutes then falls back asleep until 7ish; I wake her to take older son to school). Trying to figure out how to get her to stay asleep until 6 (which would be an ok start time for our day). FYI – she goes to bed around 7-7:30 and takes 3 naps a day. Any advice?
Jackie says
Hi Rachel, love your blog, I have 13 week old twin boys, I have been dream feeding since 6 weeks and it works a treat, I dream feed them about 10:30 and they sleep through till 6:30-7am. I am wondering when and how I drop the dream feed?
Cheers
Jackie
Nancy says
At what age should you start dreamfeeds? My baby is almost 5 weeks old & falls asleep between 7-8:30. He will sleep at 3.5-5 hour stretch & is waking to eat two times. I have a two year old, so no matter what, I’m up at 6:30. Therefore, I’ve been sleeping when baby does. If I did a dreamfeed, I would have to set an alarm to wake myself, so I’m not sure if it would benefit me right now. I dreamfed my older son but can’t remember when I started!
Kayla says
Rachel we have a 4 1/2 month old baby boy who has all of a sudden for the past couple of weeks has not been wanting to sleep, take naps, and waking up at crazy times during night. He is also teething. He has never been a big sleeper but he atleast use to go to bed around 730pm would wake up around 3am feed and sleep till 7am. We would like him to get back like that go to bed around 730pm and wake up around 7am if possible. His naps he will only sleep maybe a hr at most. We have been trying to get him to take 3 naps if not he is so ill and fussy. We would like to know what you recommend on getting him to sleep all night and nap better during day? Also what times are best during the day for nap times and what is the best bedtime for his age. Thank you so much.
Laise says
Hi Kayla you should look into a 4 month old sleep regression, I had the same exact issue once I finally came across the sleep regression and moved his bed time to 6pm no later than 6:30pm it worked like magic. Good luck !!!
Isma says
Hi I have a week old baby boy who will not let me sleep at night. He will cluster feed continuelly all night stopping and starting. Is he too young to introduce a dream feed? He sleeps during the day sometimes.
Taylor says
Hello, I am wanting to start my 6 week old on a routine & will need to start the day around 5am. What could a routine/schedule look like for that start day time?
Laura Metier says
I have an 8 month old who falls asleep by himself between 6:30-7 and sleeps through til about 4-5. I then breast feed then he goes back to sleep til 6-6:30. I want to drop that feed. He eats plenty during the day. Can starting to dream feed at maybe 3:30, make things worse or is it worth trying. He overall does really well, I’m just over that last feed.