You’re because your little one is having the dreaded 4 month old sleep regression. Well, you’re in the right place. Sleep regressions and sleep training, my oh my!
You are puttering along, enjoying those snuggly soft baby cuddles. Happy baby is sleeping longer stretches at night. You’re probably even coming out of the “newborn fog” and then BAM….
Baby stops sleeping well.
You wonder what’s going on for a few days, start Googling, and pretty soon realize your little one is smack dab in the middle of the 4 month sleep regression.
This can also happen a tad early or a tad later than 4 months, but the idea is the same.
How do you know if baby is going through the 4 month sleep regression?
Symptoms of the 4 month sleep regression (baby may have only a few but still be going through the regression):
- Starts waking frequently at night
- Naps become shorter (often 45 minutes in duration)
- Baby is much more fussy
- Changes in feeding patterns
But never fear, I’ll help you.
The 4 Month Sleep Regression
Before we go any further I think it’s important to realize the 2 main reasons babies go through the 4 month sleep regression. They are not the ONLY reasons, but they’re the two main ones.
- Baby has been a sleepy newborn, but didn’t learn the habits and skills needed to sleep on his own so now that he’s not as sleepy he can’t get to sleep (or stay asleep) on his own.
- Baby has learned how to sleep on his own and slept well until now, around 4 months, and is taking shorter naps. This is likely due to hunger and taking an approach to increase milk at this point will help.
First and Foremost: They’re No Longer So Sleepy
So those early newborn days and weeks are so precious. Baby sleep easily and often and you pretty much feed him and he falls asleep and that’s that.
Around 4 months they are less sleepy, they need more wake time, and they stop falling asleep at the drop of a hat.
If you haven’t taught baby how to sleep on their own without you nursing or rocking them to sleep then this age is where it shows.
This doesn’t mean what you did was wrong, but that four months and beyond is a different kettle of fish.
And it takes longer for baby to get into deep sleep so your tricks and hoops will now become much more involved.
“To put that in perspective, if you are holding your baby to sleep, you would need to hold her for at least 30 minutes to make sure she’s in deep sleep and then she might wake up 15 minutes later. Sound familiar?”Baby Sleep Site
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At This Age, Doctors Used To Recommend Rice Cereal…
In years past the 4 month sleep regression wasn’t quite as bit of a Thang for one good reason. Moms started babies on rice cereal at this age! So when the 4 month regression was related to hunger this nipped it in the bud.
Now, however, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusive breastfeeding until 6 months of age (source).
This means if baby is waking early and more frequently is to feed more often and build that milk supply up to the necessary levels. Perhaps baby needs more frequent feeds for a few days or longer feeds at each nursing session. Trial and error should help you get the right amount. and then, in a month or two, when you add solids or purees, you’ll be able to rule out hunger completely.
Follow your pediatrician’s advice, obviously, but be careful not to rule out hunger.
Baby Is Taking 45 Minute Naps
If baby used to nap for long stretches, but is now waking after 45 minutes, the first strategy you should run towards is feeding more often. Assume that baby is hungry and simply feed baby as soon as he wakes. If you keep this up for a day or two and notice your baby doesn’t want to feed at these times, then it’s likely a sleep issue, not a hunger one.
If you keep this up for a day or two and baby seems to lengthen his stretches of sleep instead of continuing with the 45 minute intruder, then you have your answer. Baby was hungry, your milk supply was low, baby was having a growth spurt, or all of the above.
What To Do When Baby Wakes After 45 Minutes:
- Throw out your routine for a few days and feed baby immediately after he wakes. Try to give baby a full feed and not let him fall back asleep while nursing, which can be contributing to sleep props as well as not getting to the more nutritious hind milk.
- After the few days are up, determine if baby was actually hungry during those extra fees. If yes, keep feeding baby until he passes through the growth spurt and your supply catches up to the demand.
- If after a few days you see baby wasn’t hungry for those feeds, you know you’re likely dealing with a sleep prop. This means you need to work on teaching baby to go to sleep on their own. (See my free email series on how to do just this, right here!)
- If baby seems to be waking up, but not irritable or fussy, then perhaps baby is getting plenty of catnaps throughout the day, but could take longer naps with a few routine tweaks. This might mean putting baby down to nap 10 or 15 minutes later than normal and seeing if that helps.
Baby Is Waking Frequently At Night
If baby used to sleep much longer stretches at night and has now stopped, hunger is nearly always the culprit.
I’ve heard said that around the 4 month mark you should move to 4 hourly feedings, but I personally don’t recommend this if you’re nursing because you aren’t able to track exactly how much milk they’re getting and this could make things significantly worse if it’s due to hunger.
However, if baby used to wake up every few hours at night and is now waking up more frequently and needing you to nurse him, rock him, or do something else to get him back to sleep then you’ve likely got a sleep prop on your hands.
The only way to get rid of a sleep prop is to replace it with a positive sleep association. I teach you how to do that here.
Steps To Take If Baby Is Waking Frequently At Night:
- Give full feeds where possible, don’t feed for two minutes then put baby back down. Try to coax baby to take as long a feed as possible.
- Make careful note of what is causing baby to wake up. Does baby want something particular to go back to sleep (to be held, fed, etc.). If this is the case, baby has a sleep prop and you’ll need to create a plan to wean baby from that.
- Realize that whatever is happening, you can find a solution, you will find a way, and that both mommy and baby were made to sleep long restorative stretches. You can get there.
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