If you’re feeling like a truly discouraged mom right now, this mindset shift will help you to feel more positive, joyful, and content.
There I was, 11 weeks pregnant. Haggard. Worn out.
Tired and nauseous.
The kids had watched too much TV, the house was a mess, I had no clue if we had food to eat for lunch, much less dinner. And I just didn’t care.
I couldn’t care.
I felt so physically ill, mentally stressed, and completely overwhelmed that I was such a failure as a mom that I couldn’t even think about more than just getting through the day.
Truthfully, I was such a discouraged mom I felt I couldn’t even consider thinking about “solutions.”
Even though I knew this was a result of pregnancy, I couldn’t shake the feeling that I’d morphed from a productive woman into a sloth like couch potato who was doomed to ruin my children.
It was in this moment, and moments like these, that I found encouragement in the only way I knew how.
By reminding myself of this truth…
Life is like a video, not a photograph.
One moment does not define your life, it is made up of a huge string of moments.
You might be a discouraged mom today, and an over-the-moon mom tomorrow.
Encouraging Strategies For Discouraged Moms
It’s not always easy to get out of that moment when we know we’re not living up to who we are or what we want to happen in our homes, but here’s how we can do it.
Focus on the average of your days, not one bad day
Just as you are a combination of body parts to make a whole, the entirety of your actions make up your character. Your knees aren’t as pretty as your eyes, but together they all function.
You may not be perfect at one thing, but you surely make up for it in other areas. You may not always cook a healthy dinner, but you do regularly and try to limit junk food.
Of course, you may yell on occasion, but overall you are a positive mother who affirms her children. When you’re feeling like a discouraged mom remember, no mother never yells.
You are your average, not one isolated moment.
Keep a long term perspective
There are seasons that are harder than others. Pregnancy, newborn phase, job loss, moving home, relationship struggles, and loss of a loved one are examples.
You will often feel discouraged during these times.
You won’t always be able to respond perfectly in every scenario and sometimes life’s stressors are more than you can cope with at once in your own strength.
Remember, cliche phrase that it is, this too shall pass. It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass.
Accepting your discouraged feelings without judging them
Covering up what you feel won’t make you feel better.
Saying “It’s not so bad, I don’t mind the house a mess, chaos is fine.” when it’s not true won’t make you feel better.
You won’t feel better because – to you – it’s not true. A more honest and effective phrase is
“The house is a mess, it bothers me, but it won’t be like this forever. I can cope for a time.”
It’s not allowing a pity party nor is it minimizing the failure or frustration you’re feeling.
This was actually the best advice I received pre-marriage. From my hairstylist who did my updo for the wedding.
Acknowledge some days don’t go as planned.
Be honest with yourself about your needs.
Admit unhappiness. Not about your whole life, but about certain situations.
And then get up and bounce back.
Or, if you can’t yet get up, admit that it’ll take a bit to get up but that you will do what it takes when the time is right.
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