Are you a confident and take charge type of woman? Your personality is your strength so here’s how your choleric temperament benefits your whole family. This is installment 1 of 4 on the four temperaments. This week, on four separate days, I’m going to describe a mom with each of the four temperaments.
My goal is to help you identify what type of personality you are born with. I’m going to describe the positives about your temperament and how it blesses your family.
We often view ourselves in light of everyone else’s accomplishments, even those completely different than us, and feel discouraged.
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My aim is to help you identify your strengths (and later I’ll do the same for your kids’ strengths) and to begin noticing the small ways, the little ways throughout the day, that you are nurturing and caring for those around you.
If today’s temperament is not your own (we still have Strong + Deliberate, Fun + Energetic, and Calm + Steady to come), think about another mother this is describing and take the time to send it to her to encourage her that she is running her race well.
The Confident + Take Charge mom is based on the choleric temperament seen through the lens of motherhood.
You are a go-getter.
You’re extroverted, practical, and quick thinking. You are active at home and otherwise, always looking for something to do or, conversely, noticing what needs to be done.
You’re the most self-confident temperament, and in large part this is due to the fact that you celebrate your successes, and see obstacles and failings as challenges. You don’t place your worth in one time events or situations so you move confidently through life. Motherhood is no different.
The Confident + Take Charge mom is loyal and protective. You want the best for your little ones and do not abide anyone or anything that seems to threaten that peace and safety.
You take your role as a mother seriously, and have high expectations for your family. Your visionary nature lends you to create goals, wishes, and plans for your family’s future and you work hard to bring those to fruition. When challenges arise, you are able to rise above the moment and keep your eye on the big picture. It’s why you are a natural leader.
The running of the home is no problem for the Confident + Take Charge mom and her home is usually ordered and organized. You, more than any other temperament, are able to get a lot done in a short amount of time. It comes so natural to you, in fact, that you take for granted others are able to as well.
You are active and energetic and provide your children with ample opportunities to explore, have fun, and learn. You see the big picture in the small things. How one lesson adds to their knowledge. How reading one book aloud brings them closer to reading on their own. How one day at a museum broadens their horizons. How one cuddling or wrestling session strengthens a relationship.
The role of discipline and training in parenting comes natural to you. You were born to be in authority and are able to enact consequences and deal quickly with disciplinary issues. The emotionally mature Confident + Take Charge moms are able to consistently discipline their children while being very loving and nurturing at the same time because they know the value both of these things have on character building.
You challenge your children to bring out the best in them and unlock their potential. Whether you challenge them directly (those children you know respond well to this) or you gently push them into new situations that will challenge them, you see each child individually and work to help develop their little characters and hearts with enthusiasm.
The Confident + Take Charge mom quickly identifies her children’s strengths (and weaknesses) and seeks to build up their strengths through practice and repetition. She also gives her kids tools to help manage their weaknesses. Because she views the big picture (10, 15, or 20 years from now) she is able to persistently work with her child in areas they struggle with, providing both encouragement and correction when necessary.
You are incensed at the thought of injustice or bullying so you speak frequently about standing up for one’s self and others. You encourage your children to speak out and stand up for what they believe in. Being Confident + Take Charge you already know your values and beliefs, and are easily able to communicate those with your kids in hopes they adopt the same values. You ask questions, encourage discussion, and earnestly desire your children to have a strong sense of self.
You are a good homemaker.
You’re not easily frazzled by the shenanigans of small children.
You are protective and loyal like a mama bear.
You want your kids to rise to their potential and you see how great they can be, even before they do.
“She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks….
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.”
Proverbs 31:17, 25-27
The Confident + Take Charge Mom’s children (and husband) are likely amazed by your capacity to think, feel, and act so decisively. They count themselves blessed to have you.
Leave me a comment if you know you are a choleric Strong + Confident mom!
Mom Problem Solving Worksheet
- pinpoint an issue
- draw out how it’s affecting you
- label what you don’t like about it
- determine areas of responsibility
- figure out how it’s showing up
- say what you’d rather happen
- brainstorm solutions
Click on the descriptions below and it’ll take you to that post. I recommend reading all 4 before you determine which temperament you are!