Got loud older kids who wake up the baby? Here’s how you can help protect the baby’s nap and it’s something that’s relatively inexpensive… white noise.
Little kids are curious.
This does not stop when a new baby comes home. In fact, this amps things way up. They are more curious, more excited to hug, cuddle, and squeeze the baby, and all around in a more agitated state.
At least for a little while.
Then things slow down a bit.
Your newborn gets in a good sleep routine, you learn to mentally survive the postpartum phase, and the home starts to settle… you realize the baby can find it hard to nap with all the excitement in the home.
How to Protect Baby’s Nap
I’ll just let this image do the talking…
Here are some ways you can help protect your baby’s nap with all the noise and life going on around you. If you have a deep sleeper, I’d still advise these. If your baby is a light sleeper, well, all hands on deck!
Create Clear Rules for Siblings
The toddlers and preschoolers need to know what they can and cannot do. These will be particular to your own situation, but those in our house include:
- do not go into the baby’s room
- do not go down the hall near the baby’s room unless you are going to the potty
- and do not yell anywhere near the baby’s “wing” of the house
These work fine for us because the house has ample room to play in areas far away from the baby. Plus they can always go outside. The trick is to be very clear on your expectations with your kids so they know what to expect. Also, make clear consequences if they breach those expectations.
Consequences will vary with the age of the child. What works with an 18 month old is clearly not appropriate for a 4 year old.
House Rule: don’t go in the baby’s room while napping.
Consequence for breaking the rule: you must do a chore with mommy then sit on the couch quietly and read (instead of free play) until baby wakes up.
Use White Noise
I am in love with white noise. It is a lifesaver. Every single person under 30 in our home sleeps with white noise. Scratch that, I use it too.
From the baby to the Kindergartener, it’s a lifesaver.
And the beauty of it is that I can hear when any of the children call out from their rooms in the night, whether from a nightmare or needing assistance with a potty.
Occupy Older Siblings
This is a great way to prevent baby from waking up prematurely (or from not being able to get to sleep). When it’s the baby’s naptime (see all my sample schedules here) I occupy the older kids.
I absolutely recommend having some scheduled Quiet Time.
In short, if you keep them busy they won’t go messing with the baby. If they are running wild and free (which I do encourage throughout the day) odds are baby won’t get to nap well.
Baby doesn’t nap = mom frazzled = everyone melting down
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Find Creative Nap Locations
If you have a few children at home during the day, this will be a lifesaver. We’ve slept kids in laundry rooms, other bedrooms, walk-in closets, and anywhere else there’s thicker walls and more distance from the main living room.
A reader told me once her baby slept in the master walk-in closet and I think this is genius.
A dear friend slept her baby in the guest bathroom with the exhaust fan on.
Get creative. Baby doesn’t have to sleep in their shared room or nursery. Oh, and if a toddler does share with a baby then this is an absolute must read for safety.
Have Similar Nap Times
“I’m not tired.”
“I don’t want to nap.”
“I’d rather play.”
These words are unintelligible to me. I cannot even hear them. In our home, naptimes are at the same times for all those over 18 months old. Everyone goes down for a rest or a nap at 1:00 p.m. Even if they’re not tired.
Even if they don’t feel like it.
White noise goes in everyone’s rooms and quiet reigns. The older ones may not nap, they may simply rest or play quietly and that’s okay. Not only does this help baby sleep, it helps mama have some time too.
Get my cheat sheets (newborn up to elementary aged kids) and find your family’s groove.
Use them for:
- nap times
- meal times
- chore times
- play times
- AND more!
All in all, you’ve gotta be flexible. You know what they say…
Blessed are the flexible for they shall not break when bent.
- Children with irregular sleep routines and durations are more tired throughout the day
- Longer sleep duration was generally associated with better body composition, emotional regulation, and growth in children aged 0 to 4 years. Shorter sleep duration is associated with longer screen time use and more injuries
- Adequate sleep in the first year is critical for optimal infant neurodevelopment