Moms show love to their kids in way more ways than you can think. I mean, we all know that they clean, cook, etc. But have you every considered these 25 ways that mom show love without even trying?
I really love my job.
LET ME TELL YOU WHY.
Not only does it help you find some solutions to niggling problems, but my favorite part? Getting to point out to you the amazing things you’re already doing.
Because while there are some areas you aren’t “perfect” there are many areas in which you are really doing it. I’m listing a bunch of these below.
Not necessarily what mom does… per say. I’m not talking about the chores, cooking, feeding, cleaning, buying them things, etc.
Although trust me, all of that is love.
Think of the other things. The things that make a mom unique and special to her kids. That special bond that communicates beyond the things you can see.
The things that come natural… mom isn’t even trying. It’s just the way it is.
Here’s how mom shows love without even trying:
Listening to them
Moms listen up for anything. Moms even listen for when it’s “too quiet”. In fact, moms are always listening (even when they may not look like it).
This is one way they show love to their kids without even trying.
Pull out these fun connecting questions to share some laughs with your precious ones!
Use them at:
- meal times
- car rides
- as a “calm down” trick
- for dinner time conversation
- or any time the day is getting chaotic or
- you need a reset to connect.
Ask any 4 year old how they know their mom loves them and this is their answer.
Trust me… give it a try.
Well, if you’re a manic hugger like I am, they will. Hugging them is huge in the minds of kids. They know that physical connection with their mom is a bond of love.
Knowing what they love
Nobody knows which condiment their kids prefer, how they like their sandwiches cut, or what their favorite treats are like mom.
Mom’s know what their kids love. Simply knowing these things is showing love without even trying.
Try saying something like that when the time comes up, “I know just what you like!” helps a child feel seen and heard.
Kids (toddlers through elementary school) will learn everything from life management, social, survival, and hygiene skills PLUS MORE!
Giving them a safe place to land
When the world seems to be crumbling around them or they are simply drained from a busy day… mom’s arms (or a conversation with mom) is just the thing they need.
It’s a safe place to be true and risk judgment. Moms show love by simply being a safe place to land.
Sympathizing with them
Nobody understands a child like his/her mother. A mom can “get it” even when that child is having a hard time explaining what is going on.
A mom has a unique ability to sympathize with her kids and this is love. In fact, because you’re so familiar with your child you are able to dig deeper and see what others don’t see.
Why they are acting oddly, when it started, what the root may be. A mom who can dig deep is a blessing indeed.
Show love to their kids by protecting them
We’ve all heard the saying: “Mama Bear”.
It’s a real thing…
Mama Bear comes out when she feels like her kids are in danger. And, kids naturally run to the safety of their mother when they need it. It’s not something that mom’s have to try hard to do. It’s purely nature and instinct to protect their children.
In fact, I have to wrangle in my own emotions to not jump in and rescue my kids too often simply out of my protective desire.
Singing to them
From bedtime songs over a crib to nursery rhymes. From the potty song to Jamin’ out in the car on the way to school.
Kid’s feel the love of their mom when they sing to them. It’s one way mom’s show love to their kids without even trying. Babies even recognize their mothers’ voices from the womb, so don’t be afraid to sing sing sing.
I made up a lullaby for all 5 of my kids that I sang when putting them down to naps or bed to the tune of Jesus Loves The Little Children.
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Reading to them
The countless bedtime stories… that’s love right there. Love is when mom puts things down or sets things aside to read to her children.
First of all, it’s usually very fun to read stories to kids. Secondly, it’s soooo good for them!
Playing with them
Maybe it’s a pretend tea party. Or, maybe it’s LEGOS. When mom sits down to play for a even just a minute with the kids, they feel loved.
They love showing off their dolls outfits or race car ramps. It makes them feel special and mom can show this love without really even trying.
If I’m too tired to really dig in and play or too worn out mentally to make fake conversation, I’ll often just sit close and watch. That makes them feel good too.
Yes, I know that kids sometimes buck when their mom teaches them. But teaching is more than just importing knowledge. And, doesn’t always happen through academics.
First off, nobody can teach like a mom can. Secondly, mom’s teach kids all day without even knowing it.
They teach how to love. They teach how to smile. Moms teach kids how to be happy.
A mom is always teaching her kids.
Show love to their kids by challenging them
Sometimes kids need to be pushed or challenged. This, of course is delicate. But nobody knows when to do this like a mom.
She knows what her children are capable of and when it’s best for them to take that jump. It’s just another way she can show love to her kids without even trying.
- pinpoint an issue
- draw out how it’s affecting you
- label what you don’t like about it
- determine areas of responsibility
- figure out how it’s showing up
- say what you’d rather happen
- brainstorm solutions
Encouraging with just a look
A kid is nervous about a situation or uneasy about a task. A quick glance from mom and he’s good to go. All he needed was to know that she was watching him.
Moms have a special superpower with just their face. They can encourage their children without saying a word or doing anything. Kid’s seek acceptance and solace in their mom’s expressions.
This is why showing them love in this manner is effortless.
Paying attention to their details
Now, I have heard that when kids enter into the teenage years that everything in this department changes. That all of the sudden “mom doesn’t get me.”
I don’t know about that yet. But I will tell you that it feels like love when someone understands your details.
Maybe its a mom who gets the fact that her daughter needs a few minutes quiet time before going out to play. Or, understands that her son is experiencing pain when he acts this way.
Whatever the case is, love is in knowing the details.
Knowing when they are scared
I have had some people tell me stories that are almost spooky when it comes to knowing when their kids are scared. We truly have intuition that is unfathomable to most fathers.
Moms are connected to their kids in a powerful way and can feel (sometimes even when their kids aren’t with them) when they are afraid.
But especially if they are there, moms know when their kids are feeling frightened and can quickly comfort them before things get out of hand.
Show love to their kids by allowing them to be creative
There’s no telling what kids will come up with. Moms show love to their kids by just allowing them to express their creativity.
Maybe it’s messy art or sand sculptures in the sandbox. Allowing them to be their authentic creative self is love.
Building their confidence
Not every kid is a math genius. Not every kid is a sport’s star. And truly, not every kid is the most handsome kid in class.
But none of that matters to mom. To a mom, their child is so perfect and excellent. They are a gift from God and worthy of everything they have.
Moms build up the confidence of their kids without even trying… because they believe in and love them no matter what. And that is something nobody else can do for your child like you can.
There are so many evil things in this world. So many dark things that want to affect the precious minds of out children. A mom shows love to her kids without even trying by naturally sheltering them from these things.
Helping them practically (tie shoes, zip jackets, and apply sunscreen, etc.)
They may squirm and wiggle and say “mom, stop it!” But, really they are saying “that’s my mom and she does this because she loves me.”
And yes, it does take effort to apply sunscreen (especially to a 4 year old who is trying to wiggle away). But moms don’t have to try real hard to show this kind of love. It just comes with the job description.
Smiling at them
A smile is worth 1,000,000,000 words. It can change a person’s perception and mind about themselves and the world around them.
Moms can show kids they love them without even trying by smiling at them every chance they get.
I have particular smiles for each child, based on their personality. I didn’t do this on purpose it just happens. It’s one way we connect.
Show love to their kids by validating them
You can notice their efforts, validate their emotions, and praise them when it makes good sense. By praising them I mean… by saying specific praises about what they are doing as to encourage them or train them in which ways to go.
Moms are naturally great at this. “I love the way you’re eating those veggies.” “I’m so proud of you for finishing your math test on time.”
These types of things that mom says really show her love for her kids. Moms who grew up without a lot of praise themselves may struggle with this, but you can make it into a habit.
Knowing when to defend them
Sometimes you kids do wrong things and need to be reprimanded. Sometimes other people’s kids do wrong things and need to be reprimanded.
But of course you’re only able to decide that for your kids. And thank goodness for that.
Kids feel loved by their mom when she is honest about their behaviors and addresses them accordingly. They also feel loved when a mom will see what really happened and defend them if necessary.
Sometimes it’s “tough love”, but its genuine.
Show love to their kids by laughing with them
Kids can be hilarious. You never know what they are going to say, but most love it when they are able to make you laugh.
Laughing at kids jokes is an easy way for moms to show love without really trying. My kids love when they can make us laugh, and I think it creates a family culture of fun.
Cuddling with them
Cuddling time is the best. And moms know to take advantage of any cuddles they can get while their kids are young.
Keeping them with good hygiene
“Don’t forget to wash behind your ears.”
I mean… I think every mom has said this. It’s just nature to train kids to be clean.
They may not love all the “nagging” but they sure feel loved when mom does it. With 5 kids this gets the best of me sometimes when they fight bath times or I am trying to teach self-care hygiene skills and they are trying to run around and play monkey games.
But hey, that’s how it all comes down the pike.
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She can pray for them like no one else
Moms have a special connection with their kids. That’s for certain.
I believe that they have God’s ear when they pray for their children because of this unique connection. I believe that He listens to a mother’s heart when she prays for her children.
And that this is another example of how moms can show love to their kids without even trying.