Your phlegmatic temperament has much to offer your children and family and here’s why. This is installment 4 of 4 of the four temperaments and how each of them bring life to their family.
If you’ve been waiting all week to get into why you, the calm steady mom, are a great mom then wait no longer.
You are calm and steady.
As an introvert, you are content at home with the kids and able to take things in stride. Even when things get chaotic, stressful, or the kids get out of control you remain easygoing.
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As a Calm + Steady mom you’re nearly immune to anger. Your fuse is very long and it takes a lot of pressure over an extended period of time before you blow up. Ever patient and long suffering, you can remain cool under pressure.
You can get down to the kids’ level and just be with them. They feel that you truly pay attention and that’s because you do.
You are able to focus intently on what you are doing, and the kids will often look to you to play a game or watch their new trick because they know you’ll focus on them.
The Calm + Steady mom is a peacekeeper by nature. You don’t function well when situations are full of turmoil and drama, and seek to keep your home a place of rest and relaxation. You’ll be quick to diffuse high tempers and to reconcile everyone to a place of relational harmony.
Whereas other temperaments tend towards anxiety and worry, you live fully in the present and avoid situations that are likely to cause you stress. You like to think before speaking or jumping into something and will often take a long time before starting something new.
You will be predictable in certain areas of motherhood and your children will find security in that.
The Calm + Steady mom will likely teach her children empathy and kindness. Instead of focusing on punishment, you will be quick to explain to your children why a certain behavior is preferable to another. You truly care about the feelings and well-being of others and want your kids to feel welcome and safe in your home.
“Nice” is a word often used to describe you. It’s not for lack of more descriptive words, but because you truly personify the adjective. You are kind, thoughtful, respectful, and caring. As your children age they will find you an excellent listener.
You won’t jump in to offer help when unasked, but offer positive supportive feedback when you know it’s desired. Children of the Calm + Steady mom will use your shoulder often and know you care about what they are going through.
You are easygoing.
People feel at peace around you.
You create an environment of harmony and rest.
“Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.
Her children arise and call her blessed.”
Proverbs 31:11-12, 20, 28
The Calm + Steady mom’s family are blessed by her steady, kind, and calm demeanor. She brings peace and harmony to her loved ones.
Leave a comment if you are Calm + Steady and tell me what your best strength is!
Mom Problem Solving Worksheet
- pinpoint an issue
- draw out how it’s affecting you
- label what you don’t like about it
- determine areas of responsibility
- figure out how it’s showing up
- say what you’d rather happen
- brainstorm solutions
Click on the descriptions below and it’ll take you to that post. I recommend reading all 4 before you determine which temperament you are!