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There is a secret to less stress in motherhood and it’s probably one you’ve not heard of. Instead of worrying about every little thing, try this.
With our first children we are often extremely paranoid.
Very careful to make sure they look perfect, sleep perfect, and have the best of everything.
We take great care.
- pinpoint an issue
- draw out how it’s affecting you
- label what you don’t like about it
- determine areas of responsibility
- figure out how it’s showing up
- say what you’d rather happen
- brainstorm solutions
And then we have more children….
Some mothers are pleasantly surprised that more kids doesn’t equal more stress. At least not at first.
Some mothers find the opposite, in fact.
Here’s my secret to less stress….
Read my graphic below to get my super secret – and probably not obvious – secret to less stress in motherhood and parenting.
Do you only have one child and feel very stressed?
To stop taking things so seriously.
To relax more and not take things personally.
To realize you can’t control a lot of things so you learn to let things go and become a less stressed and discouraged mama.
Tips for people with multiple children close in age
If you’ve got a few kids all close in age, these posts will help you.
The key, of course, is a good routine, clear boundaries, and lots of love and a sense of humor.
- Daily schedule for kids 4 under 4
- The 10 year rule – toddler discipline
- Boundaries in parenthood – the key to sanity
And here are some posts about having babies close together, if this is your method for reducing stress. Ha!
- How to survive Irish twins in the early years
- Why having babies close together isn’t as hard as you think
- My #1 tip for having babies close in age
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Why having more kids can make you less stressed
The truth is having more kids can obviously be more stressful. You have more mouths to feed and more bottoms to clean and less time to yourself.
One on one time with your kids is harder to come by and you may feel more guilt for not having as much time with each child.
However, ,if you let it, having more children can help you to relax. It can help you to – like organized moms everywhere do – major in the majors and minor in the minors.
You will learn firsthand that what most kids want is just a present parent. Because you just won’t have time to actually cater to all your children’s every need, you’ll see what things really end up mattering and which don’t.
You’ll see that a lot of the things you did because you thought it mattered to your child, you’ll find out it really only mattered to you.
Do you forget to sleep, bathe, eat, relax, etc.? NO MORE. This tracker will help you consistently live within your limits so you have more love to give to your family.
The real way to be more at peace as a mom
So whether you have one child or you have a dozen, the real path to peace is in knowing there’s someone in control smarter than you are.
Doing the best you can each day and then being okay with what you’ve done.
After all, life’s not like a photograph, it’s like a video.