Got kids who won’t sit still when you are trying to read? Here are some great ways to get your reading in without forcing children to sit on your lap who just don’t want to!
My firstborn child, a girl, loved to read. From such a young age she’d sit with me and let me read board book after board book. We’d point and smile and as she got older it never changed.
Then I had boys.
And my boys did not do that. I would get frustrated when I tried to read to my kids who wouldn’t sit still and nearly threw in the reading towel… until I came to a very important conclusion…
Just because your toddler won’t sit still while reading doesn’t mean they don’t like reading
You might be saying “yeah, duh” but this was a game changer for me. I didn’t know how to read to kids who won’t sit still.
Once I realized that they don’t have to, I took a different approach to story time with boys and it made all the difference.
Now my nearly 3 year old and 18 month old will sit on my lap during story time (not that they have to) and will let me finish a few books at a time.
Victory!
You can still read to kids who won’t sit still, here’s how!
These tips on how to read to kids who won’t sit still will take so much pressure off you so that reading is still fun!
1. Don’t make your kids sit still.Â
My boys would sort of walk, hope, or bounce around the chair I sat in to read and although they were not still… they were listening.
I wouldn’t let them talk or yell or make a ruckus, but I would not try to make them sit at my feet or in my lap. I was learning to read to kid’s who won’t sit still.
They’d come look at a picture, smile, walk away and then come back. It was a tad frustrating to me, but it was what it was and they enjoyed it.
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2. Distract your toddler while reading.Â
Sounds counter intuitive, but I’ve found that giving them something sensory related to do, often helped them concentrate. I’ll sit my 18 month old on my lap and bounce him.
If someone bounced me and I tried to concentrate on a book I’d probably throw up, but not my boys!
You can give them a ball or silent toy to hold and they will fidget. You can read to kid’s who won’t sit still! Somehow this actually helps free their mind to pay attention.
3. Don’t read the book word for word to pre-toddlers and toddlers.
When my boys were little and actually made some progress in paying attention, I’d be sure not to prolong the story. After all, I was reading to kids who won’t sit still.
Literacy is promoted by any reading or word based activities, so summarizing a page or story is a handy trip when this happens.
Sometimes I’d read until I sensed they were about to check out, then I’d covertly skip to one of the last pages to round out the story. Can’t say they noticed, but it gave us a chance to celebrate finishing the book!
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3. Ask your kids lots of questions about the bookÂ
Whether they are popping around you or fidgeting on your lap, point to pages of the book and ask questions.
If children have bought into the book or story time they’re more likely to pay attention.
Examples of good questions…
- What color is the ____?
- How many _____ do you see?
- Can you find the ____?
For advanced questioning ask…
- How is ___ feeling now?
- What do you think will happen next?
- What did ___ learn?
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Learn More4. Let your child choose the books for story time.
I like to let my kids pick the books because there’s a higher chance they’ll actually let me read it if they were interested in the first place.
It’s hard enough to read to kid’s who won’t sit still, try reading if they aren’t interested.
My son will listen to long books on tractors now without much drama, but he’ll only get a few pages into his sister’s Fancy Nancy before jumping around us.
As your kids get older and you begin to read chapter books to them regularly, why not rotate which child gets to pick which book? Similar to how you rotate toys.
And if they truly don’t enjoy it, don’t force the issue and risk giving them a bad taste in their mouth about it all.
5. Don’t become frustrated or take it personally.
I know certain personalities of ours (ahem, whose with me Type A moms?) tend to dislike busyness and chaos.
If it’s reading time, the ideal situation in our minds is everyone sitting quietly with their hands in their laps paying close attention and not uttering a word.
That typically isn’t the case with small children and particularly when you have a few you’re reading to at one time. Don’t let reading time become cumbersome by becoming frustrated!
The days are long but, after all, these years are so short!
Ultimately, reading is an awesome… awesome thing!
Even if your little ones act uninterested, that doesn’t mean they won’t become interested soon though if you push through.
While there are definitely developmental and academic benefits to reading, it’s also a great family bonding activity.
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- AND more!
Don’t worry if you get off to a rocky start! Keep going and work together with your child to introduce them to the great joy of a good book.
Tad Hills writes Duck & Goose and Rocket books – all are a win with my daughter. There are several board books for the younger set and a few picture books too that make jumping to longer stories easier since they already know the characters.
Jessie, you mean board books that are like “starter books” for longer books? I’ve found my boys go through a phase where I want to pull my hair out and scream “they’ll never learn to read!!!!#%!!” and then they calm down. Ha! I’ll look into those books because I really do love reading to them.
Maybe she meant board books as in ones that are made with super thick pages that can’t rip…? Those are the only ones I can let my son hold now (15 mos)! He sometimes likes to eat them, too, but at least he can’t rip them apart. :D But I don’t know – story board books all have pictures, so maybe she meant something else?
Ha, Laura, my 18 month old likes to chew the books. If he has one when I’m not around he’ll chew it. I need to get better about respecting the books, but it’s funny. I mean they’re cardboard…
Have you heard of Indestructibles? My baby boy LOVES his…they are picture books and you can pull at, chew on, get wet and even wash!
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Such great advice. I love it when you offer to read a book to your kids, they say ¨no thank you´¨. Then you start reading and they can´t resist coming to listen. They get reeled in! Mine love funny voices and noises.
Hahaha so funny thats so true. Mine do that sometimes as well, “No I don’t want to….” then by page 2 they are captive!
Great ideas! My oldest has always loved reading (in fact right now I can hear her in her room reading to herself when she’s supposed to be sleeping!) but my 20 month old daughter isn’t so interested. She’ll pick out a book but half way through want to read something else. If I don’t stop what I’m reading and switch books, she screams and rips the book out of my hand and throws it. Discipline issues aside, any advice for this situation? I don’t want her to hate reading because i force her to finish a book but also want her to learn how to finish one story first before starting another.
Kacie, mine have done this on occasion too when they had lower attention spans. I was just very firm about not throwing or ripping, and tried to keep the book out of their hands. Also, I’d look them in the eye and say “We’ll finish this, then read another…” and i’d sometimes cut that book short. If they had super short attention spans I’d sort of recap the book as I flipped pages or ask questions about the pictures instead of actually reading because I wanted to make reading a nice atmosphere, not a bad one. Letting them pick the books helps too. And honestly time helped!
I think all of your advice is spot on. I just wrote a whole post about skipping pages and condensing stories, and linked to you. My blog is pretty small, so you won’t get much traffic from it, but I wanted to give credit where it’s due.
Thank you so much Heather :)
I have two Littles who are not just busy, they are noisy, as they play while I read. My 3 yr old boy HAS TO make the car sounds as he drives it around the floor, and/or the 3 and 5 yr old start hitting each other, fighting over the same toy, or the same spot on the rug to sit on. ?. Add to that, a 9 yr old with some sensory issues, and he goes crazy while he is legitimately trying to listen to the story, and starts yelling at everyone else to SHUT UP! Of course, my 12 and 18 yr olds are book worms and will curl themselves up with a novel and think they are too old to be read to…?
Any suggestions for dealing with noisy kids, not JUST busy (because, of course, they are that, too)?
Hmm, Melissa. I FEEL YOU. Mine aren’t quite that old, though, so I’ not quite sure what I’d say but here’s what I do. Besides get frustrated…. ;) I will tell them BEFORE I start that they can’t make any noise. If they get up that’s okay, but they need to be quiet and respect everyone else and, if they don’t, they’ll have to go to their own room and wait. Now, this works for mine because they are little, but I’m not sure at what age this would stop working… what do you do currently?
My 3 year old (that loves reading) loves all books by Chris Van Dusen like “Camping Spree with Mr. Magee ” and “If I Built a House “. Also, Giraffes Can’t Dance, Pout Pout Fish, Harold and the Purple Crayon, The Big Orange Splot, I could go on and on. I also adore everything by Peter H Reynolds.
I’ll put him on my author list. I absolutley love the Giraffes Can’t Dance book, I need more in that series.
I love these suggestions! My challenges goes a step further, though. My kids aren’t just BUSY, they are NOISY! I don’t think they know how to play quietly. Any suggestions for getting them to BE QUIET?! lol I can hear my 5 yr old being very loud, as we speak…keeping her older sister from going to sleep.
Melissa…. this… is the struggle of motherhood. Ha. I have started raising my hand in the air when I need silence. It works for a bit, but you really cant push your luck. Ha ;)
My son and daughter both went through the stage where they thought books were just another toy to be played with (from about the time they could crawl to 15-18 months). But now they both love reading time. My less – than – two year old girl still has trouble making it through her older brother’s story books, but I think she’s doing well for her age. I Want My Hat Back. By Jon Klasen is great because it has few words, but a subtler humor for my preschooler to enjoy, animals for my toddler to point out, and if you do a silly voice for each character, they both eat it up. This one is my go to book for spanning the age gap for a restless bed time.
Thank you for that recommendation, girl, I need to put it on my list. I’m with you 100%, we’ll just keep reading and they’ll come around :)
Such a simple but duh type of realization! Kids can’t sit quietly for more than a few minutes! They’re made to move, explore, play, learn, etc. If anyone has an issue with kids chewing on books, they should try quiet, cloth books. You can even make your own!
Yes, I love seeing those quiet type books. My friend made an awesome one for her child
Rachel, girl, this is the most dead-on assessment of reading to boys that I’ve seen yet among all the mommy bloggers, me included. I love how you have to relate to how boys learn, because that’s right where I am. My oldest is a reader maniac, while one of his twin brothers is mildly ADHD and the other is smart but goofy. Story time at night was always a struggle to accommodate each kid. It took a while to work out a system, but the key factor was always what you said: Keep reading, even if it seems they’re not paying attention, because they actually are even though it doesn’t seem possible. Somehow their brains are soaking it all up! So I’ve learned not to worry and to be flexible. I usually ask comprehension-like questions when we’re done just to make sure they were listening, and, by golly, they answer correctly. Anything you can put in the language arts part of their heads is good (math seems to come easy), so keep reading to or with them. No matter the age. I don’t know about girls, but boys are WIGGLY. It’s worth your time to keep reading to them. Plus, it builds a bond like no other. It’s a special time. Thanks again for this article. It’s timeless.
Gina, thanks so much for your kind words. I’m telling you I get that boys wriggle and wiggle and play with cars all the while. Ha. So special you have twins.. I secretly wanted twins ;)
Hi there, my 6yr old boy is the one who loves being read too and sits still (mostly) and my 3yr old girl loves to pick a book but hardly sits still to enjoy it. I have no choice but to let her jump around just so we can have a story but this is sooo distracting, to a point i have to cut down the story or worse no story to my boys dismay. I will try the toy in hand tomorrow. Thank you in advance.
Thank you!! I just walked out of Barnes and Noble in tears because my 19mo old wouldn’t sit still during story time. I kept trying to get him to sit and in turn he threw a tantrum so we had to leave before the storyteller got to the second page. I felt like something was wrong with my son because all the other kids his age would sit still and I never had that luck with him. It’s good to hear I’m not alone. Thank you.
Stacey, some boys don’t want to sit still during stories but it doesn’t mean they don’t listen. We can work on the sitting down but REST ASSURED you’re not alone and he’s a typical boy :)
What do you do when your 18 Month old not only doesn’t want to sit and listen to read but won’t let you have the book either? Everytime I try he just takes it out of my hands or won’t stop flipping the pages and when I say no or try to take it back he throws a big fit.
I grab mines hand, say no, then when they pitch a fit I put them down and move on and then I try again next time. They eventually get it :)
I’m a jerk I hold the book high above my head and read it aloud anyway he jumped up n down trying to reach it but he still remembered what I read even after I put it down and tickled him lol
Thank you for this article. In my case it was the boy who would listen to book after book from infancy and my girl who does not sit still. I will try reading to her when she is in her constant state of motion.