Here’s my tip on how to release anger quickly so you can move on with your day! Here’s one (and more to come) anger management activities.
I’m joining some other bloggers today to talk about unconventional ways to release your anger! Not the fluffy stuff that you hear all the time, but out of the box ways to vent and get over it. So, let’s talk emotions. I am a big fan of talking about mental and emotional health, and anger is a HUGE part of our emotions.
But first let me ask you a question….
Do you think emotions are good or bad?
Trick question, I’m sorry, but the answer is neither. Emotions are neutral. They simply are. They are part of the human experience and you can’t avoid them. Good ones feel good. Bad ones feel bad. But you are neither good nor bad because you have good or bad emotions.
Hope you’re still with me. So it’s you know it’s unavoidable to feel anger. When things don’t go our way, if we have a stuffed emotional basement, when kids have contagious meltdowns, or when life becomes stressful and overwhelming.
The key to handling anger is not to feel guilty about it or wish it weren’t so, but to learn how to identify your triggers and let out the anger in healthy ways that don’t negatively affect your children or your relationship with them.
How to release anger
But what I want to give you today is how to release anger quickly. Sometimes you are trying to get on with your day and make peanut butter and jelly sandwiches (and then cut the sandwich crusts) but everything is falling apart and you just want to throw something breakable and cry like a maniac. These are the times when you really must release some steam and move on with what you are doing whether it’s taking care of the kids, working, or finishing a household task.
So here’s one way to quickly get it out. If you are a more timid quiet person this may be difficult at first. But I’m telling you it works.
Anger Management Activity
Scream at the top of your lungs.
Okay, okay, okay. Let’s clarify a little. Don’t just stand there in front of your children and scream at the top of your lungs at them. That, my friend, will end badly. Here are some ways you can scream at the top of your lungs without damaging your children and your relationship with them.
- Go outside. Going outside and screaming at the top of your lungs will be a huge release. Of course you’ll probably feel silly, but don’t knock it until you try it. Now, this probably works best if you live in the country, or if most of your neighbors have full time jobs and are not at home. :) If this isn’t an option…
- Find a pillow. I like this one if I don’t have time to go outside. Grab a thicker pillow, shove your face in it, and scream very loud. This might even work better because you’ll actually really scream since the noise isn’t as confronting. I’ve screamed into a pillow until I felt so ridiculous that I started laughing and then, you know what? I was over it. Maybe not over the whole reason I was angry, but over that big moment where I was about to lose it with the kids.
- The silent scream. This is where you go into your bedroom and jump up and down and silently scream into the air. This can be very effective because you don’t have to worry about the noise, but you’re still letting out some steam.
We can often feel ashamed that we are experiencing angry feelings, particularly if they are as a result of something with our children. I want to encourage you that even people in the Bible were angry and cried out, then set their heart back on the path they had chosen. How many times did David vent his anger to God in the Psalms?
The Bible doesn’t say “never be angry” it says “in your anger, do not sin.” I personally believe one of the best ways we can deal with our anger is to actually let it out instead of stuffing it down. By stuffing anger we will only carry it around with us to explode at unfortunate times.
Next time you want to get back on track as a happy and content mommy, but you are feeling the need to explode, try the outside, pillow, or silent scream! Vent, vent, vent, then move on.
If you need more anger management activities
If the type of anger you are feeling is way more than just occasional momentary moments, I highly recommend my friend Amanda’s course called Stop Yelling For Good. What’s worse than just feeling the anger is living with the guilt that consumes you after you have angry episodes with your kids.
You are not alone in this, and you will get support from the course material and be put in a group with lots of other mothers going through the same thing so you can have daily support. Check out her Mama’s Anger Management course details.
I’ve created a free email series just for you! If you have a little one aged 1 to 8, this series will help transform your home environment. No, that is not a joke or false claim. You can let your kids express their emotions without raising back talkers who meltdown at the drop of a hat or throw a tantrum every time they are unhappy with something. After this free email series:
- your child will stop throwing tantrums for attention
- you’ll know how to validate and affirm your child’s emotions
- you’ll feel more in control of the atmosphere of your home and will be able to operate out of a place of love, not frustration
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