I know, tired mom, that life can be tough sometimes. You want to do the best for your kids, be the best for your kids, and have a good life, but it’s not always easy. I hope this helps.
I was heavily pregnant and a complete failure.
I was too tired to run the home right.
Too tired to keep the kids reigned in.
And too tired to give a rip.
Everyday I just hoped my kids weren’t naughty and they’d do what was asked of them because I didn’t have the energy to back up my words up with action. I was overwhelmed, weary, and so ready to give birth I could have given myself a c-section just to be done with it all.
I felt like a failure of a mother. Good deeds other mothers did highlighted my own inadequacy. I berated myself for having low energy, and was anxious that – perhaps – I wouldn’t go back to “normal” after giving birth. I was so emotionally overwhelmed that meeting my kids’ needs was about all I could do.
Words That Every Emotionally Exhausted Mom Needs to Hear
It was at that time I knew I needed to tell myself some good things. Instead of focusing on the hard things and my perceived failures, I needed to affirm the things I was doing right. I had to get through those final days of pregnancy then the early weeks of postpartum and get my head on straight again. I needed to believe that I was a good mom even though I felt crappy.
“You Are Doing A Good Job”
If you are the type of mom who worries about being a good mom then, the fact is… you’re doing a good job. You aren’t doing a perfect job (impossible) and you aren’t doing the best job (because you’re struggling) but you are doing a good job. And good is good enough.
You’ll have time to do better later. Things will improve and change. Life ebbs and flows in seasons and this is a hard one. Acknowledge that it’s hard. Acknowledge that you could do better but, right now, you’re still doing a good job.
“It’s Not Hopeless”
Hope deferred makes the heart sick. Prov. 13:12
Having our hopes dashed is the worst. But what’s worse than that is thinking you have no hope. That there is no chance you’ll have more energy, feel more positively, and see a change in your circumstances. This is just not true. When our mindset gets stuck in our circumstances, we can’t see a way out. This is why what we tell ourselves is so important. Although right now we may not see a silver lining in our situation, it is not without hope.
God is alive, there are friends and family, there are miracles, there are weird circumstances and things that happen at just the right place at the right time, and your situation is not without hope. You may not know where to look for it yet, but it is there.
“You Are Not Alone”
Even if you don’t have a close support system where you are right now… Even in your loneliness… you are not alone. There are a slew of other mothers in your area, state, country, and all over the world who feel similarly. You are not a failure because you’re emotionally exhausted. Nearly all women have been where you are or will be.
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“Everyone Is Not Judging You”
When you’re feeling down it’s easy to imagine others are judging you for your failures. The fact is, they are not (here’s the real reason moms judge). When we feel insecure we believe others see our every flaw. They do not. Half the time people don’t know your faults until you spill them out because you assume it’s already obvious.
So what if you’re an angry mom sometimes with weird triggers? So what if you aren’t as calm as you’d like to be and you can’t get a grip on your emotions all the time? You aren’t the only one whose emotionally exhausted, and besides there is hope for you.
“The Hero on the Horse Is You…”
I read an article from a woman in an abusive marriage that was very profound. She said the beginning of her journey to freedom came when she realized a harsh truth. The truth that no one was coming to save her. She had to pray, gain courage, and see herself as the heroine in her story. In fact, as horrible as that sounds at first… it is a freeing thought. She began changing her mindset.
She began hoping. She began dreaming. She began acting and eventually through God’s grace and perseverance she got into a great situation. Her own thoughts and mindsets had to change and joy was found more and more as they did.
How to Get Out of an Emotionally Exhausting Situation….
Being emotionally exhausted means you constantly feel like you’re catching up. Never getting ahead. Barely enough energy to make it through much less make changes. Well, I have good news. The very first thing you need to do to get out of this phase requires more thinking than doing.
How to begin coming out of the emotionally exhausted situation:
- You’ve got to change your mindset. These positive affirmation printables will give you a thought to read every day for one month. You’ll be dead surprised how differently you’re thinking in 31 days.
- Second, you’ve got to have hope. Hope won’t come until you start changing the Stinking Thinking. The positive affirmations will help you to see the truth in your situation, not just the ugly and broken. When that happens, a seed of hope will be born.
- Third, let hope and peace do their work. As you continue hoping and growing and giving yourself a break, you’ll notice a change inside you. While your circumstances might not have changed, you’ll feel more “you” and less “crazy.”
- Fourth, make changes based on your new mindset. After you’ve been in this more peaceful mindset for a while, you’ll start to think of some solutions to overcome the things that give you emotional exhaustion. You’ll see tweaks or changes that you need to make that you couldn’t see or have time for before.
So while you may feel insane.
About to lose it...
I just want to encourage you… really… you are not alone.
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