Baby sleep problems are one of the hottest topics among moms of small children. You’re a tired mom, and when you don’t get enough sleep you’re an angry mom. Not to mention how your poor baby is suffering.
Little babies are born doing nothing but sleeping, eating, and needing diaper changes.
After the initial postpartum recovery, it seems like no big deal to go out and about since the baby will probably fall asleep in the stroller or car seat anyway. And so, you carry on as is.
And so you run errands.
Go to the park.
Go to the mall.
Bring the baby to the cafe.
And bible studies.
And all over.
And soon you realize, the baby only sleeps in the stroller. The baby screams when you try to put them down to sleep in their crib. They are tired, fussy, and irritable and you aren’t sure why. Here you’ve been laboring under the assumption that the more exercise or activity a baby gets, the more tired they will be, and, therefore, the better they will sleep.
That’s one of the biggest baby sleep myths.
The idea that wearing a baby out will help them sleep better.
In fact, wearing a baby out will make them sleep worse. The more tired they are, the worse they sleep. The more tired they are, the harder it is to fall asleep. The more tired they get, the more they fight sleep. An overtired baby will wake up frequently through the night as they transition sleep cycle because they are uncomfortable.
So how do you know if your baby is sort of… worn out and overtired all the time?
Here are some of the most common symptoms of overtiredness:
- Frequent fussiness
- Sleeps very little during the day and has short naps
- Fights going to sleep
- Gets progressively fussier as the day goes on
- Gets startled easily by things in its environment that bring it to tears
- Frequently falls asleep at the breast, in the stroller or the car seat (after the first few months in which case this is very normal)
- Finds getting to sleep difficult and wakes easily
- Acts ready for bed at 5:30 or 6:00 pm
- Wakes near midnight crying in an inconsolable manner
How to prevent over-tiredness and over-stimulation
While you can’t avoid stimulating environments or tiredness completely, here’s how you can help prevent over-tiredness.
Keep a good routine
If your baby has regular naps and consistent bedtimes, they will not likely get overtired. Barring sickness or occasional routine deviations, keeping a consistent routine will ensure your baby is well-rested most of the time. This means they will be able to cope one a late bedtime, a missed nap, or an overstimulating morning without becoming super fussy or irritable.
Two or three days in a row of major routine deviation, like a vacation, and you’ll notice a considerably more fussy baby. If you need something to help you keep the routine then you can use these printable routine cards for bedtime routine.
Printable Routine Cards for Morning, Evening, and Bedtime Routines
Avoid screens and craziness right before bed
Screentime is not recommended at all for babies and early toddlers. However, if you do allow a bit of screentime, be sure it’s not immediately before bedtime. Your baby will become overstimulated and the wind-down process will take longer and be more difficult.
If they are watching something, 20 to 30 minutes before bed, either turn off the screen or remove them from the area so they can begin releasing the happy sleep hormone.
Have a good wind down
An essential part of the bedtime routine is the wind-down time. This is where you incorporate time into your routine that is just for getting calm. This can include singing, rocking until drowsy (not until asleep if you want them to fall asleep on their own), reading a book, and sitting and cuddling in a dimmed room.
You’ll want to do a good part of the wind-down routine in your baby’s room, away from loud siblings or other disturbances. Turn on the white noise so they aren’t disturbed by toddler squeals, and then put the baby to bed.
Move up bed or naptime
Since we realize it’s a myth that wearing your baby out allows them to sleep better, the best way to help an overtired baby is to put them to sleep earlier. If bedtime is normally at 8:00 pm but they are always Past the Point then, move bedtime up earlier. We wrongly assume putting them down earlier means they’ll wake earlier, but if they’re overtired the opposite is true.
Sleep begets sleep. The more restorative sleep they have the more they will sleep.
Guard their sleep
This is a big one. I often see mothers out and about with their babies who are fussy. Now, babies get fussy and this is life. But, if you’re having to pull out all the tricks to get them to sleep every day, and are standing around with blankets over your baby rocking them just so they get some shut-eye, they are overtired or have a sleep prop.
Of course, it’s only a problem if it’s a problem for you. Still, this type of thing can turn into a problem quickly.
Your baby needs, at least, one consistent nap a day, preferably more if they are still very small. It’s a very short season and teaching them to sleep early on will benefit them throughout their early years. Guard their naps by staying home when they are tired, putting them to bed early even if it means taking a few minutes out of family time, or by declining an invitation that comes on the heels of two or three more that week.
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- night wakings to sleeping through
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