Inside: This post was originally published 2 years ago, my daughter is now 6 and scored highest on all standardized tests in her entire class… even without formal preschool learning. I didn’t write this to convince anyone not to send their kids to preschool, but to offer my own perspective and opinions for those who are wavering in their decision and need some encouragement that, perhaps, they aren’t the only ones. Post contains affiliate links.
From Kindergarten to Senior Year, kids will spend around 11,700 hours in school. And that’s a conservative estimate.
Kids gotta learn, right?
Of course they do.
They’ll learn to read, write, do math, and (hopefully) name all 50 states in alphabetic order through song. They’ll learn about crushes, friendships, and how to handle homework.
They’ll think about clubs to join, getting their driver’s licenses, taking standardized tests, which college they want to go to, and figure out what they want to be when they grow up.
One day we’ll be packing up and sending them away to start life on their own.
But that day is not today because my daughter is only 4 years old.
We hem hawed about preschool. Visited preschools (on two continents), talked about it ad nauseum with anyone would listen (or pretended to listen) and debated.
How many days?
Morning or full day?
Two days in a row?
Being from a small town, there actually weren’t many options. Most preschools were 5 days a week or, if you wanted to go less, you pretty much paid the same amount.
I know preschool is great for some kids. I know most people send their kids to preschool. I know it’s even seen as a ‘rite of passage’ to some. I get that and believe wholeheartedly that each family is different and knows what’s best for them.
But after talking, thinking, praying, and budgeting we decided that we won’t send her to preschool right now. And I’ve committed in my heart to do some other things instead.
(Note: Hands Free Life helped give this decision legs).
So what will we do instead?
We’ll sleep late and snuggle.
My kids wake up around 7:30 am each morning and have since birth. It is possible to get your kids to sleep later, and it’s so nice. We will (and are) starting the day slow.
The older kids have to “make” their beds before they come out of their rooms in the morning, then they come to our room. We all laze around on the bed and tell the baby how wonderful he is, we talk about things like dreams, plans for the day, and what they’d prefer for breakfast. It is SO nice not to have to start the day rushing.
We’ll have laid back breakfasts.
This’ll be my last year without having to worry about rushed mornings. No hurried “get dressed” and “finish your breakfast” or “where’s your backpack?” We can mosey on down to the kitchen by 8 a.m. and drag out breakfast until nearly 9 o’clock.
In our pajamas. And, if inspiration strikes (or maybe if it doesn’t) we can stay in our pajamas most of the morning. Not because we’re lazy. Or because we are slobs. But because this is a super short season of life where we won’t “have to.”
We’ll spend time with family.
There are family members who are already retired, and we’re going to spend time with them. Just yesterday my aunt made biscuits and tomato gravy for her farmer husband’s lunch, so we all piled up, went over, and visited.
My daughter won’t be able to do that next year, except on weekends, so we’re going to take advantage of spontaneous “I’m making your favorite meal, want to come over?” phone calls mid-day.
We’ll be busy outside.
We’ve started a garden a ways away from the house. We treated the soil, set up the sprinkler, and are busy growing seedlings in the barn before we transplant them.
One day we spontaneously made a scarecrow (seen below) and most days we walk around quite a bit. I try to get my steps in which means we’ll just wander aimlessly but fast. Look in the pond, at insects, and the kids will get filthy and dirty. I love it.
We’ll enjoy long naps.
Afternoon pickup: the death march for baby and toddler naps. Instead of waking up 3 kids to do a preschool pickup… we won’t. Some days the kids sleep until 4, 4:30 or even 5! If they nap late we might move back dinner and bedtime a bit. There’s no rush to do this, rush to do that.
We’ll do school for fun.
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My kids think it’s so fun they’ll watch each other play. The standards are up to public school level and it’s a great way to add in a bit of learning without the drama.
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We’ll read a lot.
My daughter is very bright. I know all moms think that, but she honestly is. Because of that I know it’s good to challenge her, but I also know that she challenges herself.
We bought this Amelia Bedelia set for her first chapter books and we’re already looking forward to the next books. Kindergarten will start and with it homework and then lessons and units. For now, we’re going to read for fun.
We’ll do life.
As the kids get older life will inevitably get busier. More scheduled. More involved. More will be required of the kids and therefore of myself, so this year we’re going to just do simple life. I’ll teach her (and the others) how to do more cooking.
We’ll go grocery shopping. I’ll make sure they continue doing chores, cleaning, and I’ll teach them some more personal hygiene skills. Of course kids learn throughout the entirety of their childhood, but this year we’ll do these things in a relaxed way.
We’ll try our hand at nothing.
If we wake up to a dreary rainy day and feel like doing nothing, we will. If we wake up and get a wild hair to do something fun that day, we will.
Whereas in future years we’ll have to go to school, honor our commitments, and do the work, right now we don’t. She doesn’t have to go to school. I don’t have to make her.
We’ll make sure she’s prepared.
My mom works in a school and understand what my daughter needs to know before starting. She knows letters, numbers, colors shapes, how to write her name, and she’s even started sounding out letters to read a bit.
She can sit still, pay attention, and obey instructions. If she misses anything, I’m sure she’ll pick it up.
We’ll enjoy this season.
This is the major thing I want to do. Right now I have an overwhelming sense we need to relax and enjoy this season of life. If you have not read Hands Free Life, I urge you to do so.
Next year life will be different. Next year my daughter will be one year older. Next year I’ll have school lunches and homework and pickups. It’ll be awesome in its own way, but I’m not going to rush it.
Preschool is great, but it’s not a necessity.
Learning is a must, but it comes in many forms.
Each family has the freedom of choice, and we are happy with ours.
Each of us have our own personality, temperament, and giftings. And, the truth is, we parent best when we work with these instead of against them. Take this assessment so you can work to your strengths, and be the mom you want to be for yourself and your children.
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