It is so important that we mothers take good care of our hearts because they are the wellspring of our life. If the spring dries up, well, there is no water. Read on for more.
Also, here’s some encouragement for the emotionally exhausted mom.
In defeat I leaned over my 5 year old’s bed as I prayed.
I had my hand on her soft blonde hair and was struggling to pray through my feelings of failure. These were the thoughts running through my head…
I’m a crappy mom.
I never end up doing the things I should have done.
Do my kids even like me?
Instead of saying those things out loud during her prayers, I simply said, “God, please help me to be a good mom to my baby girl.” Before I even said the words Amen my daughter replied…
“But mom, you already are a good mommy.”
I could have cried. It was balm to my heart. I looked her straight in the eye and told her thanks for the encouragement and walked out of the room a few steps lighter. This was a big lesson for me. A clear indicator that my inner thoughts were on the wrong tack and needed reigning in.
Why Your Inner Voice Matters
Your inner voice is one of the most important voices in your life. It’s with you all the time, it speaks even if you don’t want to hear it, and it heavily affects your moods.
What you believe affects how you act
Your inner voice mirrors what you believe about yourself. If you think you are an angry mom, your inner voice will never let you forget the times you yelled at your kids. If you are consistently guilty about how you yelled at your kids, you will be frustrated and cranky. The more frustrated and cranky you are, the more you’ll yell.
If you believe you don’t know what you’re doing, you’ll have no confidence in your parenting choices. You won’t be able to set boundaries and you’ll be afraid to make your kids angry. Feeling like you don’t know what you are doing will mean you act indecisively.
Not because you are a bad mom, but because you think you’re a bad mom.
What you think about yourself will be communicated to your kids
What’s that saying?
“More is caught than taught.”
Our children will pick up on our patterns, thoughts, and behaviors. If our inner voices tell us negative things and we live those out, the kids will know. They may even think they are the cause of our unhappiness. It’s one of the ways we can screw up our kids. What we believe is how we live.
If our inner voice is telling us that our kids are messed up and it’s our fault, we’ll parent out of guilt instead of out of parental authority. Your kids will pick up on what you think so the key is… to change how we think. More on that below…
Your mindset either imprisons or frees
Our hearts and minds are completely within our own control. What others do to us or say about us? Not so much. At the end of the day, we must be diligent to feed ourselves with positive things. Whatever we focus on becomes what we orient our lives around, good or bad.
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Phil. 4:8
Research now shows our brains are immensely more powerful than we imagined. Our thoughts, habits, and patterns actually create paths in our brains. The more we trod on them the more entrenched they become. This is why it’s hard to break free from negative mindsets.
Hard, but not at all impossible.
Affirmation Cards for Moms
I was first introduced to the principle of affirmations in business books. In a nutshell, an affirmation is something you tell yourself so you can change your Stinking Thinking.
Stinking Thinking: refers to any type of negativity. It makes you believe you will fail, that bad things will happen to you, and that you are not a very good person.
An affirmation is something you tell yourself that helps change your perspective. It helps you focus on the good things. It literally changes the way your brain works. Because I know many mothers struggle immensely with guilt, I’ve created a printable pack for you to change your Stinking Thinking.
31 Days of Printable Affirmations for Moms is a printable pack with 31 affirmation cards, one for each day. If you read these cards, pray them through, and meditate on them throughout your day you will absolutely get rid of some of your Stinking Thinking and help you begin to feel better about being a mom.
Do it for your family.
Do it for your kids.
Do it for yourself.
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