Do you feel like the baby days are hard and it’s hard to relax and enjoy it? Here’s my best tips, as a mom of 4, on how to enjoy your baby right now.
My entire body itched. I laid there on the hospital bed, 36 weeks pregnant, scared to death I had cholestasis. They did a few tests and gave me some Benadryl to stop the itching and help me get some rest. Unfortunately the Benadryl made the itching worse and gave me restless leg.
That’s why you don’t drug kids while traveling. It backfires.
Anyway, the pregnancy with my fourth child was hard. I was healthy physically, but hormonally and emotionally I was a complete and total basket case. All I wanted, my entire being, was oriented towards birthin’ that baby and holding him (or her) in my arms.
The tests came back negative, I was told to change my washing detergent, and sent home. I passed the next three weeks praying the baby was safe and delivery would just get here. Well, he came a week early and, along with the surprise of finding out his gender at birth, I felt immediate relief. Euphoria even.
Because I flipping love babies. I could hug and squeeze and cuddle them all day long and half the night. However, I know not everyone finds the “baby phase” so easy. I get emails from moms with babes who are really struggling. But I truly think you can make the best of this time. You can “enjoy every moment.” Or at least, enjoy many moments.
Here are some things you can do with your baby that give you perspective.
How small they are.
How fast they are growing.
How precious this time is.
Enjoy your baby right now
- Lay your baby on the bed and push your chin lightly on their chest. If they are of the giggling age, they love this.
- Let your spouse hold your baby and walk to the other side of the room. Your baby will take the proper perspective, so so tiny.
- Hold your baby to your chest with his cheek to your cheek. Close your eyes, and memorize his milky smell.
- When you hear the little pitter patter of feet (or knees and hands), close your eyes and listen closely. Soon it’ll be a thing of the past.
- Hold the baby on your hip and stand in front of the mirror. Marvel at the way you are made. Your hip won’t be a seat much longer.
- Put one of your baby’s shoes on the palm of your hand and hold it up. Chubby feet don’t last forever.
- Lie on your back and put your baby on your belly. Belly to belly time. It’s the perfect position for lots of kisses.
- With your baby in the seated position, put your hands around their rib cage and see if your thumbs touch. Feel those tiny ribs?
- Squeeze their cheeks. On both ends. Has skin ever felt so soft?
- Find a phrase just for you and your baby. When I feed my baby I always say, “Are you hungry? I made milky in my heart for you!” High Nausea, I know.
- Find where your baby is ticklish and have a tickle fest.
- Have a staring contest with your baby. Try looking into your baby’s eyes from a few inches away and not have a melted heart.
These days are hard. They are overwhelming. They are challenging. But most of all, they are short.
Don’t be so focused on the hard that you miss the precious.
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